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My soon-to-be husband is a crazy, kinky sex god and wants to be controlled. The problem; however, is I have no fucking idea what I'm doing. I understand the basics of being a Domme but that's as far as my knowledge extends. If anyone has any tips, directions, or advice to help me transition into his mind-blowing, orgasmic, fantasy that would be wonderful!

It's nice you're doing this for him. Are you into it? It's much better if you are instead of just acting like you like it. Just a warning: if you play it right it could turn out to be all about you. You both win.

Maybe read this for starters: http://wpuploads-2.kink-network.com/fil ... -Slave.pdf

Often it starts with the male orgasm: Control the cock, control the man. Tease & deny him until he is putty in your hands. Do what YOU want, what YOU like without (much) regard to him. Be confident. Be greedy. Be selfish. Be demanding. Even be 'mean'. He will soon be at your feet giving you more than you ever dreamed.

There's a lot more. Just internet search it or read some here. Geeez, the lucky boi. Go easy on him.... at first. Have fun! Keep us updated.

It is best you discuss it with him. Everyone's different, we can't know what he really wants.
My best advice would be first searching the net and finding any femdom and BDSM practices there are. Don't freak out, as some of them are way too hardcore and even may be repulsive to you. You will just find out your hard limits that way.
The main thing about all of this is having an open mind and never loose sight of what you want, what you are okay with and what you are not. You don't want to be a domme FOR HIM, because that's contradictory, and it will feel fake in the end. You want to always keep YOUR personal interests in mind, and never step over yourself to satisfy his fantasies. You should understand, that some fantasies better stay that way. For example, say he's into cuckolding and have a fantasy of you laying another man in front of him. That may be far beyond your limits, so you don't do that.

So you get your list, and make him write his own list of stuff he fantasizes about. Chances are that may not be extensive, as he may be shy to reveal everything, but that's okay. What you mainly wanna do is find the points that interest you both, and scratch the things that are hard limits (for now, or forever). You end up with a few things you are willing to try. Pick the easiest/safest one, for starters, and when you are confident that you perform it good enough, move on to the next thing. DS relationship, especially including roleplay, are hard, so you must be prepared that it all may not look like as smooth and professional in the beginning, but you will get there eventually if you cheer each other up and keep getting there step by step.
I don't know about you, but I, for one, is very open minded. There are few things I personally enjoy, and I'd say I mostly enjoy that what brings happiness to my partner. For instance, I'm not hot on heavy pain, and I wouldn't initiate it, but if my girlfriend happens to get off on the idea of being tortured to tears, I'm all for it. Her personal enjoyment makes me enjoy it. Even though there are hard limits for me.

It is also very important to play safe. There are a number of practices that may be very arousing and fun, but can potentially harm someone. Any pain infliction, electricity, bondage, even gagging one's mouth with a small ballgag is potentially dangerous, so you wanna read the net before trying any of those to know how to play safe and avoid complications.

A Dom/Domme role is a hard one, I warn you. Sub is passive, and basically go with the flow, but as dominant you will have to take charge a lot. But you are a girl, and should never forget your needs. You may be completely okay with it all, and that's totally fine, but I know most girls tend to need a strong shoulder a lot, tend to have their vulnerable moments when they need comfort and protection. It is important he still fulfills those needs of yours, so if you feel you need him to support you more - never let DS and secual kinks stand in the way of this. Sex is sex, life is life and you want to be happy all way through.
And sex is important too. You should establish what you want from it. Do you want to be a full-time domme in bed? Do you want sensual vanilla still? Or maybe you even fantasize about being dominated yourself? Don't be shy about discussing your sexual needs. You may be his dominant still, but it would be even more so his responsibility to making your wishes come true, even if he needs to dominate you to make it happen.