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so lately i find i need to say a few things about how people approach me and some other females in the chatroom. I would like to point out that this is not the absolute right way, just my point of view and what i believe would be the best to treat women like me, who arent actively searching for a sub or a game but on the same time not ruling it out completly if someone should impress me enough. That said i dont mind people asking me if i am searching for a sub or a play. You will get a quick no and why and thats it. The problems start at some other point and i will try to show what i mean with it and will say a few points with mistakes you can do with someone in my position.

Situation: First again a view at the situation. I know the ratio is terrible for male subs and i also get that it must make some feel really desperate and frustrated. So i do feel sorry for you and i do believe that some of the guys are really good subs if they would get a chance to show it. BUT... that doesnt change the fact that me and most other female dominants arent on a search for a sub or some playing (please keep in mind i just speak for people who dont search, of course it is a total different thing with people, who are searching aswell). That means it can be rather annoying to get asked a dozen times a day if i want to play or search for a sub. Its all fine if a no is simply accepted, but if people keep pushing about the topic it is one step to far.

Not being horny in the chat: Of course this is an very sexual site and so it is obvious the chat has some sexual tone aswell, but it is by far not everything the chat is about. Of course you can come online in whatever state you are. I dont try to forbid you anything, but i am hinting it might be a good idea to be not horny if you try to get my attention. Being horny could lead to some desperate and not so smart decisions. Naturally if some people are just after an quick game they are probably horny at that point. I get it, but try to stay at least calm in the mind so you can make smart decision, like accepting a no.

PM: I would suggest if you try to get the attention of me or some other domme, that you dont ask directly for a pm. Again this is not a rule and i do get that it is more comfortable for you and that some people never talked to a domme before and are quite nervous, but for me and many others (not all) it is the opposite. So if you try to get on the good site of me or those people... at least consider to have a normal conversation in the lounge, with more people involved.

Not just a domme, but a person: I am a domme and enjoy being that. It is a part of my personality and i cherrish that, but it is only a part of me. If that is the only aspect you care about, you wont have much chances to get closer to me as this is just boring me. Think about it. You know the ratio on this site, so do you think you are the only guy interested in me or the other dommes of the chat? If you only aiming at the sexual stuff it is very likely that we already had this conversation the same day before. Not very entertaining. So it might be better to impress us not as a sub, but as a person with an character. A person we find interesting. If that happens it will go way easier to becoming close to that person.

Patience: If you interact with someone like me, who isnt searching for a sub but not ruling it out completly, then listen to what this person is telling you. In my case that would be to have patients to get to know me and build up a connection.... and patients means patients. Not letting 5 minutes pass and ask again. Thats not how it works.

Fake jokes: First i will explain what i mean. I had it alot by now, that some people, who i told before clearly that i am not interested in them so far in anyway, that those people made comments about when i will finally tease them or whatever. Of course those didnt get a positive answer from me and then it was of course just a joke and i shouldnt take it so serious. The problem here is, that there was nothing which would have implied it was a joke and i am also sure if my reaction would have been positive, not one would have told me it was just a joke. So stop that, we arent so dumb to not see that.

Inside of an pm: If you ask for a pm with a domme, dont ask her about what she wants to know about you. It was you who wanted a pm and if you have nothing to say and ask, why a pm then? Its not the job of the domme to find something interesting about everyone who wants to talk to her. Its your job to show why you are different then all the others and what make you special. Talk about music you like. Movies, hobbies, whatever makes you you! That will make you way more interesting to talk to as if you just ask what we want to know.

Sexual comments: If we arent close and i barely know you if i know you at all, then i am not really pleased if i keep reading about how you would love to kiss my feet or my butt or whatever you would like to do at or for me. That will bring you nowhere and will only annoy me. I know this is a site which focuses on kinky stuff and this chat is also a chat for kinky people, but that doesnt mean i want to hear stuff from that all the time from anybody. It might be different if we get to know each other, but till that... please dont use it.

So with all the points i want to say again, that this is not the only view. Also those are not official rules. So that means you dont break any rule if you do this stuff. If you think what i said is simply wrong, then please go ahead how it pleases you. I just say this stuff wont bring you anywhere with me and i know that i am not the only one who thinks like that. A respectful way with manners cant be a bad thing, even so it is of course not the only way you can approach people. I also want to point out that i am sorry if someone feels attacked or hurt as this was not my attention. I just tried to show you what those stuff causes with me.

Feel free to say your opinion to the topic (even if it is a total different one, as i know those are out there, but please be friendly) or ask questions about my posts. I am also sorry if some parts arent clear enough. English isnt my first language and there might be some mistakes in it, as it wasnt all the time easy for me to really describe what i mean with a specific point. Again, i dont want to set new rules or attack someone, that is just a try to help both sides. If you mind it, feel free to ignore it.

Excellent tips and great advice!

Thank you kagura

Oh my...

Perfect guide to little male subs in the chat. Thanks for posting, Kagura.

And remember boys, Etiquette and manners are free... And make you all more elegant. Be a gentleman always.

                     

This is a perenial problem and is addressed in Chat Room Code of Conduct     
Perhaps the link to the chat room should be via the code of contact

male subbies will swarm around any new female Domme or sub.

If you feel the unwanted attention warrants it, tell the chat mod who will eject them from the chat room.

But it was the same 7 years ago and will be in the future.

I think the best thing is to just ignore them, then they give up.

Or give them a task to complete

                    I leave it up to your imagination what kind of task is suitable.


                     
                     




                     

You put alot of thought into this. I like it.
When I go to chat, i just talk to everyone, and have fun

Milovana Chat 2.0

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A wild "horny dude" appeared.
Horny dude uses "Hi sweetie, can I lick your username?"
--This attack was veeery effective--
You conter with "NO".
-- Horny dude dodged the attack --
Horny dude uses "PM"
-- A new PM window appeared --
You attempt to close the window.
Horny dude uses "PM" again
-- A new PM window appeared --
You escaped.

The concepts make sense. However all great rules are simple.
So here is my short version
R E S P E C T

Thank you Aretha Franklin for spelling it out.

It is a shame that there are not more females playing on this site. It is probably a sad reality that there will never be enough Mistress types to go around. (Not just on the site… Everywhere in the world )

Women know that men think about sex almost constantly and it is a struggle for some of us to contain it even in everyday normal circumstances. We will nod and talk to a woman casually and seemingly normally while we imagine what it would feel like to… Uh, Umm, You know. It is in the male DNA. Most of your guy friends have thought about being with you sexually. If they deny it, they are lying. I am not saying they would act on or go for it but they have had thoughts. When shown proper respect, you might have some sympathy for our constant, unstable DNA condition. That might be the reason we fantasize about switching roles and being under the control of a woman too. It's weird to even think about but you should still feel compassion for our internal battle with nature itself.

So, it is just our nature ( DNA ) and normal to be horny all the time. When you add this site to the mix… Well, it does not surprise me that some people find it difficult to “behave” in a manner that will please an unavailable Mistress or Domme.

It’s almost a mean kind of a teasing type thing to be all over the place in front of all these desperate guys as a seemingly real manifestation of kink and naughtiness only to say “BACK OFF JERK!” when the inevitable happens and you’re approached and “bothered”. That sort of thinking would not be realistic. I read your post so I am not saying this is what you’re doing or that it is even the wrong position for someone to take if that‘s what they want to do to people. I am just giving my opinion about this in general as a guy and personally, I like the idea of a semi-mean Mistress anyway but that would be a very extreme example of tease with absolute denial.

Your points are good and I think most people would leave you alone if you told them you did not have time or room for them in play or life. I certainly do not think any woman on this site can blame a horn dog for trying (a couple times) to gain their affection, especially after considering the DNA condition, but if the answer is “no” then they should respect the decision and leave them alone for sure. I guess chat peeps might be more inclined to misbehave with the instant back and forth stuff.

In a perfect world, more of you would make time to play with more of us. I think it would be great if a few more of you fun, dominant types would make some more teases to quench the thirst of those pestering subs. Maybe even take control of one or two as you do it. In return, you would find yourself in control and could even hand out a tease writing task to your sub or subs and make them write it to cater to a dominants point of view. That would rattle their world and present quite a challenge for them. I mean... if they cannot even flip the "switch" and create something you would enjoy or at least appreciate then maybe they don't belong with you anyway.

It might even be fun for a dominant like you to create a few regular classic teases, have them stocked up and ready for use. You could share them privately with a lonely or desperate person and make them feel a little special attention and control. You could make ones to target specific types of fans or even give out punishment sessions to bad boys.

You could even just find some porn tube stuff and make them perform to it or something. A simple gesture like that might make a poor misbehaving boy turn the corner in the chat environment and become a pleasant admirer. I guess giving that sort of attention out could also backfire by just lighting the fire inside them and cause them to desire you even more but that might be good too. Giving a little taste might give you even greater power to moderate their unwanted behavior. At the very least, it would be a nice way to tell them to get lost and provide them with some fun at the same time.

A really fun thing that some of the Mistress types on here do is plan and execute forum games from time to time. You seem to enjoy making captioned pics (nice ones by the way) so that could be a very nice element to add into some sort of tease or forum game. A few women even seem to run them constantly! This is a generous way to affect a decent number of those pining after you. I say this because I am certain that if there were hundreds of women on here clawing, begging and grasping after my attention, I would show some mercy and do something for them occasionally.

I think Milovana's dominant females are in an enviable position. It would be so awesome if the male/female and or domme/sub ratio were reversed! Imagining dozens of different Mistresses needing me to play with them along with a bunch of other women coming after me is a nice thought!

Dozens of Mistress or dominant types chasing a sub would be the ultimate fantasy come true for most guys who frequent the site and have no owner. That’s the actual situation you find yourself in on this site. You literally have tons of possibilities for you to experiment with to fulfill your desire. You have so many opportunites that you could take applications and rotate in new hires as your stable gets depleted. (a sub has to beg properly, get lucky that the Domme happens to be available, likes him, slowly grows to appreciate his subby nature and hope he doesn't lose her to the dreaded "real Life" bug) You’re a dominant type who enjoys being the dominant power in a relationship, at least in the fantasy realm, so please take advantage and realize how incredibly fortunate you are and make the best of it.

It seems like the site should be more dominated by Dominants but they just let us run amuck and do whatever we want so we just keep making these sub biased teases over and over and saying whatever we want in the forums. Waiting for the day when fantasy becomes reality and you take over for real.


I expect to be virtually smacked and will quietly accept it for giving such a long and strange response to a straightforward and thoughtful note to chat goers, especially since I don't even use chat. Please don't take me the wrong way though. I really don't want to come off as a smart-ass or contrary and only wanted to share my thoughts in the hope that you might gain an idea or two or at least think about things from a different perspective.

I have nothing but respect and admiration (+ tiny bit of envy) towards Milovana Women. I certainly don't want to hurt my application status by making even a single one of you angry with me. I usually know better than to open my big mouth lately but couldn't resist this time.










Sexytimes 5?


Yes Miss.


You strayed off topic again and failed to answer to my satisfaction yet again. Do you deliberately try to show me disrespect boy?


No MIstress! I didn't mean to show disrespect at all. I was only giving you my thoughts Miss! You said you wanted to hear my thoughts so I told you what I was thinking at the time. I was honest but I realize now that I should have considered your point of view and allowed my mind to appreciate your ways more. My perspective was coming from a selfish place Miss and I am sorry for disappointing you. I know if you continue to communicate your thoughts with me I will learn to adapt to your desires without even thinking!


Based on the depth of your betrayal and the height of your insanity I have decided to forgive you and help cleanse you of your faults.


Thank you so much Miss! I know you can train me to your liking! I will do whatever you want Miss! I love you so much!


I love you too boy! Good bye! Off with his head!


Sextimes 5 ------> ------> ------>

Sexytimes 5 wrote:It is a shame that there are not more females playing on this site. It is probably a sad reality that there will never be enough Mistress types to go around. (Not just on the site… Everywhere in the world )

Yes the male to female ratio tends to lean more towards a male population.

Sexytimes 5 wrote:When shown proper respect, you might have some sympathy for our constant, unstable DNA condition.

HAHAHAHAHAHA.... you seriously just said that? Grow up, you're not 12 and just discovering your penis. So when a woman dresses provacatively, it's okay to rape her, right? Oh wait..... Seriously, you just said that because you're a guy, you're automatically a horny asshole and women should automatically be sympathetic to that..... *facepalm*

Sexytimes 5 wrote:So, it is just our nature ( DNA ) and normal to be horny all the time. When you add this site to the mix… Well, it does not surprise me that some people find it difficult to “behave” in a manner that will please an unavailable Mistress or Domme.

Again.. your difficulty is not any woman's problem here. If you want to improve your chances of finding a play partner, especially in a BDSM environment, making statements of entitlement is NOT going to improve your chances, at all.

Sexytimes 5 wrote:It’s almost a mean kind of a teasing type thing to be all over the place in front of all these desperate guys....

For the sake of fun, I'm going to translate this into a real life situation. You basically just said that women are mean for having their bodies and being in the mere presence of a guy......

Sexytimes 5 wrote:That sort of thinking would not be realistic.

I knew you were going to say that, :P

Sexytimes 5 wrote:Your points are good and I think most people would leave you alone if you told them you did not have time or room for them in play or life. I certainly do not think any woman on this site can blame a horn dog for trying (a couple times) to gain their affection, especially after considering the DNA condition,

Yes we know that you think that just being a guy makes it okay to be a disrepectful asshole.. and being a guy suffering the same condition.. i say you're full of shit

Sexytimes 5 wrote:In a perfect world, more of you would make time to play with more of us.

Who the fuck do you think you are? Speaking as a play partner, I will say that a relationship like that is work and i wouldn't spend the time and effort to maintain such a relationship for the sake of being a good sumaratin to some horny boys who don't know how to get their own play partner. My overall response to this is that the only reason i have a greater chance of getting a lady who'd want to play with me is because I bother to show them the respect every person is deserved. No more.. No less. What you're suggesting objectifies them in a repulsive manner.

Sexytimes 5 wrote:I think it would be great if a few more of you fun, dominant types would make some more teases to quench the thirst of those pestering subs.

quench your own thirst. again as a guy i happen to know that's what your hands are for. go rub one off and call it day.

Sexytimes 5 wrote:It might even be fun for a dominant like you to create a few regular classic teases, have them stocked up and ready for use. You could share them privately with a lonely or desperate person and make them feel a little special attention and control. You could make ones to target specific types of fans or even give out punishment sessions to bad boys.

Basically you just said wrote:
sub: don't worry about being a Domme, i'll tell you exactly what you need to do

Domme: okay

doesn't this negate the very nature of a D/s relationship.

Sexytimes 5 wrote:I say this because I am certain that if there were hundreds of women on here clawing, begging and grasping after my attention, I would show some mercy and do something for them occasionally.

You have to find ONE first.

Sexytimes 5 wrote:I think Milovana's dominant females are in an enviable position. It would be so awesome if the male/female and or domme/sub ratio were reversed! Imagining dozens of different Mistresses needing me to play with them along with a bunch of other women coming after me is a nice thought!

Dozens of Mistress or dominant types chasing a sub would be the ultimate fantasy come true for most guys who frequent the site and have no owner. That’s the actual situation you find yourself in on this site. You literally have tons of possibilities for you to experiment with to fulfill your desire. You have so many opportunites that you could take applications and rotate in new hires as your stable gets depleted. (a sub has to beg properly, get lucky that the Domme happens to be available, likes him, slowly grows to appreciate his subby nature and hope he doesn't lose her to the dreaded "real Life" bug) You’re a dominant type who enjoys being the dominant power in a relationship, at least in the fantasy realm, so please take advantage and realize how incredibly fortunate you are and make the best of it.

wouldn't happen.. the very nature of a D/s relationship would prevent them from throwing themselves at you like the needy sluts you're imagining in that little world you just imagined.

Sexytimes 5 wrote:I expect to be virtually smacked and will quietly accept it for giving such a long and strange response to a straightforward and thoughtful note to chat goers, especially since I don't even use chat. Please don't take me the wrong way though. I really don't want to come off as a smart-ass or contrary and only wanted to share my thoughts in the hope that you might gain an idea or two or at least think about things from a different perspective.

So say all of your smart-ass and contrary and expect that saying this will negate everything else you said..... *facepalm*

Sexytimes 5 wrote:I have nothing but respect and admiration (+ tiny bit of envy) towards Milovana Women.

The statements you make elsewhere in your post contradict this greatly.


My general statement.

If you want to increase your chances of getting into a relationship with a female.. not just a dominant female, or a female on this site.. a female... period... treat them with respect as if they are the PEOPLE that they are instead of some object that you'd like to thrust your manhood into. Women are emotional creatures who respond genuinely and positively to respect.

Sexytimes 5 wrote:It is a shame that there are not more females playing on this site. It is probably a sad reality that there will never be enough Mistress types to go around. (Not just on the site… Everywhere in the world )




Your points are good and I think most people would leave you alone if you told them you did not have time or room for them in play or life. I certainly do not think any woman on this site can blame a horn dog for trying (a couple times) to gain their affection, especially after considering the DNA condition, but if the answer is “no” then they should respect the decision and leave them alone for sure. I guess chat peeps might be more inclined to misbehave with the instant back and forth stuff.

In a perfect world, more of you would make time to play with more of us. I think it would be great if a few more of you fun, dominant types would make some more teases to quench the thirst of those pestering subs. Maybe even take control of one or two as you do it. In return, you would find yourself in control and could even hand out a tease writing task to your sub or subs and make them write it to cater to a dominants point of view. That would rattle their world and present quite a challenge for them. I mean... if they cannot even flip the "switch" and create something you would enjoy or at least appreciate then maybe they don't belong with you anyway.

It might even be fun for a dominant like you to create a few regular classic teases, have them stocked up and ready for use. You could share them privately with a lonely or desperate person and make them feel a little special attention and control. You could make ones to target specific types of fans or even give out punishment sessions to bad boys.

You could even just find some porn tube stuff and make them perform to it or something. A simple gesture like that might make a poor misbehaving boy turn the corner in the chat environment and become a pleasant admirer. I guess giving that sort of attention out could also backfire by just lighting the fire inside them and cause them to desire you even more but that might be good too. Giving a little taste might give you even greater power to moderate their unwanted behavior. At the very least, it would be a nice way to tell them to get lost and provide them with some fun at the same time.

A really fun thing that some of the Mistress types on here do is plan and execute forum games from time to time. You seem to enjoy making captioned pics (nice ones by the way) so that could be a very nice element to add into some sort of tease or forum game. A few women even seem to run them constantly! This is a generous way to affect a decent number of those pining after you. I say this because I am certain that if there were hundreds of women on here clawing, begging and grasping after my attention, I would show some mercy and do something for them occasionally.



It seems like the site should be more dominated by Dominants but they just let us run amuck and do whatever we want so we just keep making these sub biased teases over and over and saying whatever we want in the forums. Waiting for the day when fantasy becomes reality and you take over for real.


I expect to be virtually smacked and will quietly accept it for giving such a long and strange response to a straightforward and thoughtful note to chat goers, especially since I don't even use chat. Please don't take me the wrong way though. I really don't want to come off as a smart-ass or contrary and only wanted to share my thoughts in the hope that you might gain an idea or two or at least think about things from a different perspective.

where do I begin.......first of all if you don't visit the chat room, how can you have an opinion on the behaviour of subs in the chat room?

second if it seems like the subs are running things..its because most of us Dominants don't feel like wasting our time with subs who try to top from the bottom

third .....most Dominants like a sub with self control, so forget that whole DNA argument

forth... do the names Miss Jay , Miss Shell , Lady X , Anna Angel , Mistress Ana , and Mistress Donna mean anything to you ?
they all at one time hosted and ran games in the forums and or in the chat room.......ok Anna Angel is a submissive , but she still ran a game , and all of them left because of submissives that would not leave them alone and would not take no for an answer.......and one of these women had a sub try to find out where she lived , not only would he not take no for an answer but he wanted to make his fantasy come true and he did not care about what she wanted


fifth...as a Dom I only tease people I have gotten to know and who want to be teased by me , that means that before any teasing takes place , you should talk to each other as people , not Dom/Domme and sub , get to know each other ...that doesn't happen if the sub enters the room and starts asking to be teased by any one

I think Quiet Linda summed it up the best , but I am half asleep and I just left the chat room....and because you don't visit the chat room , you have no idea what you have stirred up....and I am just tossing out my two cents

Well, i already said i dont expect that everyone has the same opinion than me. Of course there are different opinions and i dont claim my view is the only one which can be seen as right and yet i have to say, that i simply disagree with your view. Not only that. I think your view is pretty rude and sexist and alot of other things i will keep for myself right now, so that it stays civil.

Sexytimes 5 wrote:It is a shame that there are not more females playing on this site. It is probably a sad reality that there will never be enough Mistress types to go around. (Not just on the site… Everywhere in the world )

Like i said in my post. I know the ratio is fucked up. I can imagine how some guys have to feel about the fact that there are simply not many chances they can take ub that regards. It sucks and i feel bad for them.

Sexytimes 5 wrote:Women know that men think about sex almost constantly and it is a struggle for some of us to contain it even in everyday normal circumstances. We will nod and talk to a woman casually and seemingly normally while we imagine what it would feel like to… Uh, Umm, You know. It is in the male DNA. Most of your guy friends have thought about being with you sexually. If they deny it, they are lying. I am not saying they would act on or go for it but they have had thoughts. When shown proper respect, you might have some sympathy for our constant, unstable DNA condition. That might be the reason we fantasize about switching roles and being under the control of a woman too. It's weird to even think about but you should still feel compassion for our internal battle with nature itself.

So, it is just our nature ( DNA ) and normal to be horny all the time. When you add this site to the mix… Well, it does not surprise me that some people find it difficult to “behave” in a manner that will please an unavailable Mistress or Domme.

Thats the part where i feel this post gets somewhat like insulting. Not towards me, but basically to all men who are capable to act like human beings with respect towards women. I meet a ton of guys who are sweet and nice and respetcful and all the things you need to build up a friendship with them. Not just in milo, but in reallife aswell. Your excuse is pretty much a common thing to say around some guys and i disagree about it so much. If those nice guys can act like this, why cant you? Why cant the guys i meet in the chatroom? Because you dont have the patience for it and use this as an excuse. Especially offensive is the fact, that you drag my friends into this. Did they do what you claim? Maybe? Probably? I dont care. On their mind they can do whatever they want, as lo ng as they are able to treat me with the respect i deserve, it is fine.

Sexytimes 5 wrote:It’s almost a mean kind of a teasing type thing to be all over the place in front of all these desperate guys as a seemingly real manifestation of kink and naughtiness only to say “BACK OFF JERK!” when the inevitable happens and you’re approached and “bothered”. That sort of thinking would not be realistic. I read your post so I am not saying this is what you’re doing or that it is even the wrong position for someone to take if that‘s what they want to do to people. I am just giving my opinion about this in general as a guy and personally, I like the idea of a semi-mean Mistress anyway but that would be a very extreme example of tease with absolute denial.

I am not completly sure what "All over the place" really means. But my name in the chat is Miss_Kagura and it is no secret that i am a domme. I do act dommy and teasy with some friends of mine and also post some of my captions from time to time. I assume that makes me to those mean teases. I just start to wonder who do you think you are? Who are you to tell me how i am allowed to act? I am open with my orientation and what i like and with friends i like to show that side of me from time to time. Is that an excuse to treat me without respect? No, it is not. I want my space and not constantly be bothered by people, who cant take a no. I am a domme, not everyones domme. I dont tease eevry guy who enters the chat and i dont deny them. I just state my opinion.

Sexytimes 5 wrote:Your points are good and I think most people would leave you alone if you told them you did not have time or room for them in play or life. I certainly do not think any woman on this site can blame a horn dog for trying (a couple times) to gain their affection, especially after considering the DNA condition, but if the answer is “no” then they should respect the decision and leave them alone for sure. I guess chat peeps might be more inclined to misbehave with the instant back and forth stuff.

And here is where you start to be completly wrong. Most people dont take a no for a no. Most subs come at you over and over again. Trying this... trying that. And yes, i do believe ANY women can blame a horn dog for trying to get her attention a few times, when she clearly said no. I tend to be nice at first and get harsher if it keeps repeating, which lead me to have a very bad reputation under a certain group of people. I mean, i even wrote this guide here, so that guys can read what would probably a better way to approach a domme, but even then they are not capable of doing that. No, it is certaintly better to start humping the leg of the domme... good idea...

Sexytimes 5 wrote:In a perfect world, more of you would make time to play with more of us. I think it would be great if a few more of you fun, dominant types would make some more teases to quench the thirst of those pestering subs. Maybe even take control of one or two as you do it. In return, you would find yourself in control and could even hand out a tease writing task to your sub or subs and make them write it to cater to a dominants point of view. That would rattle their world and present quite a challenge for them. I mean... if they cannot even flip the "switch" and create something you would enjoy or at least appreciate then maybe they don't belong with you anyway.

Who are you again? Dont get me wrong, i am sure it would be rge at for the male subs, if that would be the case, but that doesnt mean i will act like you desire. I dont have any urge to write a tease. I dont have an urge to take on 1 or 2 subs aswell and certaintly i wont give out an task like this. I see no sense in this. A tease is something you need to want to do, if not, then dont.

Sexytimes 5 wrote:It might even be fun for a dominant like you to create a few regular classic teases, have them stocked up and ready for use. You could share them privately with a lonely or desperate person and make them feel a little special attention and control. You could make ones to target specific types of fans or even give out punishment sessions to bad boys.

I hate to crush your dream, but no, that wouldnt be fun for me. I am sure some dom/mes like it, but for those dom/mes who dont and believe me when i say that there are enough out there of them, its nothing they should do! I am also not a robot you can approach in the chat if you want to get teased. I am a human being with feelings and you kick those feelings all over the place right now.

Sexytimes 5 wrote:You could even just find some porn tube stuff and make them perform to it or something. A simple gesture like that might make a poor misbehaving boy turn the corner in the chat environment and become a pleasant admirer. I guess giving that sort of attention out could also backfire by just lighting the fire inside them and cause them to desire you even more but that might be good too. Giving a little taste might give you even greater power to moderate their unwanted behavior. At the very least, it would be a nice way to tell them to get lost and provide them with some fun at the same time.

I could do that, but i dont want to search porn for some horny idiots. I mean... do you even get what that would mean? If i start like this, this will be an all day job for me. Because i would get a ton of requests per day from all that horny and desperate guys. And also, why should i even reward someone who steps out of line? That would only encourage him to do so. I also dont desire greater power over them. What do you think we are? Dommes dont desire world domination.

Sexytimes 5 wrote:A really fun thing that some of the Mistress types on here do is plan and execute forum games from time to time. You seem to enjoy making captioned pics (nice ones by the way) so that could be a very nice element to add into some sort of tease or forum game. A few women even seem to run them constantly! This is a generous way to affect a decent number of those pining after you. I say this because I am certain that if there were hundreds of women on here clawing, begging and grasping after my attention, I would show some mercy and do something for them occasionally.

And again. Some like to do that. I dont and i have reasons for that, as i said in my first post. I need an connection to a person if i want to dom them. I dont get anything out of it, when i would randomly dom people. What i do enjoy to do are captions, that is correct and if those subs enjoy those and get a kick out of it, that is fine with me. But that is akk i am willing to give out. Why? Because i dont enjoy the idea to make a forum game and have a ton of male subs before my feet and you know what? That is ok! No one can blame me for that! Same like a domme who would enjoy this!

Sexytimes 5 wrote:I think Milovana's dominant females are in an enviable position. It would be so awesome if the male/female and or domme/sub ratio were reversed! Imagining dozens of different Mistresses needing me to play with them along with a bunch of other women coming after me is a nice thought!

Perfect example of how selfish your post is. It is all about you and the sub males. You dont give a damn about me or the dommes right now. Thats the reason you treat us so low right now. Of course it would be nice if the numbers would be closer together, but that is not the case.

Sexytimes 5 wrote:Dozens of Mistress or dominant types chasing a sub would be the ultimate fantasy come true for most guys who frequent the site and have no owner. That’s the actual situation you find yourself in on this site. You literally have tons of possibilities for you to experiment with to fulfill your desire. You have so many opportunites that you could take applications and rotate in new hires as your stable gets depleted. (a sub has to beg properly, get lucky that the Domme happens to be available, likes him, slowly grows to appreciate his subby nature and hope he doesn't lose her to the dreaded "real Life" bug) You’re a dominant type who enjoys being the dominant power in a relationship, at least in the fantasy realm, so please take advantage and realize how incredibly fortunate you are and make the best of it.

Here you are correct. We dom/mes are in a better position. Nobody denies it, but what does it change? Nothing. I have one sub and are happy with her. I dont desire more subs, i dont want more subs. I dont want to take applications. I am happy with the situation how it is and your job is to respect that! Why? Because it is none of your business.

Sexytimes 5 wrote:It seems like the site should be more dominated by Dominants but they just let us run amuck and do whatever we want so we just keep making these sub biased teases over and over and saying whatever we want in the forums. Waiting for the day when fantasy becomes reality and you take over for real.

if you want to be taken as a sub one day, you should probably start to treat dommes with some sort of respect and not see as a task giving coin machine, who are just here to please the subs, so they dont bother us.

Sexytimes 5 wrote:I expect to be virtually smacked and will quietly accept it for giving such a long and strange response to a straightforward and thoughtful note to chat goers, especially since I don't even use chat. Please don't take me the wrong way though. I really don't want to come off as a smart-ass or contrary and only wanted to share my thoughts in the hope that you might gain an idea or two or at least think about things from a different perspective.

Yes, you dont visit the chat and are still so cocky to think you can talk about it, which was gigantic miss on your side. but i have an advice for you. Maybe you should open your mind a bit and look at it from another perspective, maybe then you will realize what you really said right here. For myself i can say you brought nothing new on the table. I am aware of the problems (the real ones and the fake ones like "DNA") and i do know how to treat the subs with a certain respect they deserve.

Sexytimes 5 wrote:I have nothing but respect and admiration (+ tiny bit of envy) towards Milovana Women. I certainly don't want to hurt my application status by making even a single one of you angry with me. I usually know better than to open my big mouth lately but couldn't resist this time.

I can assure you, that you dont have any respect for us. If you had you wouldnt have written this post like that. Also you made me more than just angry. What i truly feel abour your post, i will keep for myself... keeping it civil, but i can assure you. You can apply by me as a sub, but if you do, expect a no. Other than that i will take a break from milo for now. Yout opinion is not that rare and i am kind of tired of dealing with it. Not sure how long my break will be, but i need that now. Funny if you think that is a hobby. So thank you and all the other people who make this place so pleasent.

Thank you for taking the time to write such a long post, Miss Kagura :)

This thread made me both hopeful and sad..
It's great advice, and like said before, could probably be summed up to "Be respect to everyone and don't treat them like personal fetish dispensers"..

But waw, there's soo many people who do not think that way. It's so sad they think they can behave that way just because it's the internet and they have their [censored] in their hand.

Speaking kind of from experience, not really from being female, but from kinda looking like it, I get my share of this too from people who don't care to take the time to read. Gets very old very quick. x.x

Have a nice break, Kagurarr~

I would like to add that treating people with respect is not only something a submissive should do, There are a few dom(mes) on here who think it is ok to treat all subs like shit. Just because they submit does not mean that they are submitting to you.

This post is primarily aimed at miss-kagura. I have seen him on many of occasions in chat treat multiple friends like shit and even harass/bully them until they feel they have to leave chat, when they have done nothing wrong to him and not even said a word to him.
He tends to think that everyone should put him on a throne as he calls himself a Mistress.
Sorry but it doesn't work that way, not everyone wants you! Not everyone is going to pussy foot around you in case they say the wrong thing. It is an open chat room and sometimes you are going to hear things you don't approve of. If you don't like it then hit the ignore button, there is no need to directly bully someone into leaving chat.

So miss-kagura if you want respect why not try giving others respect! Take a note out of your own book and treat others the way you would like to be treated.

Miss Kagura is in fact a woman. It's in error to refer to her as he. Just to prevent any rumors or wrong assumptions.