How to be a good sub male (how to get a domme)
Posted: Thu Apr 30, 2015 6:54 pm
1. Love yourself.
Yes, loving yourself truly is the only thing that makes this shit happen. It gives you an abundance of love for others. Women can sense this confidence in yourself.
Self-love is NOT narcissism. Narcissism is a lack of self love, and seeking to replace that void.
2. What can you do for HER?
You have to be here to give HER pleasure and comfort. You also have to show outstanding appreciation for what she does for you as well. And appreciation for what you do for her.
Appreciation, appreciation, appreciation.
3. Accept that you may have to pay for her services. This is still a relationship agreement! At the very least, you likely have to provide for her. Allow yourself to be lost to her. There are far more subs than dommes. She gets what she wants. Especially if you want to do this online. What else can you GIVE her over the internet? You are not GIVING her anything by being a jerk off slave. You are likely 'taking' from her.
4. Practice abundance. Appreciate what you have and soon you'll find more of it. Say "thank you" to the world for everything, constantly.
Thank you for my house. Thank you for my money. Thank you for my food. Thanks for having 7 billion people. Thanks for opportunities. Thanks for my sexuality. Thanks for football. Thanks for rain. Thanks for the sun. Thanks for giving me feet. Thanks for making anything possible.
Honestly you CAN have whatever the sweet fuck you want. You just don't realize you already have what it takes. All you have to do is stop whining and appreciate, and you'll ride the Fuck Train to Easy City.
5. Get in physical shape. exercise in the EASIEST POSSIBLE WAY. And do yoga. make each pose in the easiest possible way, that feels good, and stop "trying" so hard. Wear something that makes you feel sexy. feel the feminine openness.
6. Get off the fucking internet. Close this window and throw your computer tower out the window. Toss your phone into a bucket of bleach. There are no women on the internet for you.
7. Get in touch with your 'feminine' components. Sensuality, emotional healing, openness, understanding, intuition, forgiveness. She's a strong woman. She needs you to be an even stronger receptive component to handle her.
8. Follow your 'masculine' components. Forward movement, generosity, encouragement, material abundance, growth. Looking people in the eyes. Use your mistakes to push forward. You can be a sub without being a worm.
9. Stop masturbating so much. When was the last time that got you anywhere? A woman can tell subconsciously when you're mentally exhausted from releasing so much. Why do you think denial works so well? because it fills you up with a fun energy and appreciation for her.
You're just frustrated. Identify what you really need and cool yourself off.
which leads us to....
10. STOP BEING NEEDY.
Your domme is not your mommy to carry you and do everything for you. Fill your own cup. She is here to comfort you, but not because you NEED her. No begging. No whining when you cant get what you want.
11. Recognize synchronization with people. Girls will like you because they admire you in some way, or would like to be like you. She wants someone who she would honestly feel awesome to be in their shoes. Fearlessness! Openness! Freedom! Not fearful, closed off, and victimized.
Women like it when you EMBRACE emotion, not hide from it. You are thriving in the emotion because you ARE receptive to it. That's what is attractive in the first place.
12. BE A PARTNER
Yes, loving yourself truly is the only thing that makes this shit happen. It gives you an abundance of love for others. Women can sense this confidence in yourself.
Self-love is NOT narcissism. Narcissism is a lack of self love, and seeking to replace that void.
2. What can you do for HER?
You have to be here to give HER pleasure and comfort. You also have to show outstanding appreciation for what she does for you as well. And appreciation for what you do for her.
Appreciation, appreciation, appreciation.
3. Accept that you may have to pay for her services. This is still a relationship agreement! At the very least, you likely have to provide for her. Allow yourself to be lost to her. There are far more subs than dommes. She gets what she wants. Especially if you want to do this online. What else can you GIVE her over the internet? You are not GIVING her anything by being a jerk off slave. You are likely 'taking' from her.
4. Practice abundance. Appreciate what you have and soon you'll find more of it. Say "thank you" to the world for everything, constantly.
Thank you for my house. Thank you for my money. Thank you for my food. Thanks for having 7 billion people. Thanks for opportunities. Thanks for my sexuality. Thanks for football. Thanks for rain. Thanks for the sun. Thanks for giving me feet. Thanks for making anything possible.
Honestly you CAN have whatever the sweet fuck you want. You just don't realize you already have what it takes. All you have to do is stop whining and appreciate, and you'll ride the Fuck Train to Easy City.
5. Get in physical shape. exercise in the EASIEST POSSIBLE WAY. And do yoga. make each pose in the easiest possible way, that feels good, and stop "trying" so hard. Wear something that makes you feel sexy. feel the feminine openness.
6. Get off the fucking internet. Close this window and throw your computer tower out the window. Toss your phone into a bucket of bleach. There are no women on the internet for you.
7. Get in touch with your 'feminine' components. Sensuality, emotional healing, openness, understanding, intuition, forgiveness. She's a strong woman. She needs you to be an even stronger receptive component to handle her.
8. Follow your 'masculine' components. Forward movement, generosity, encouragement, material abundance, growth. Looking people in the eyes. Use your mistakes to push forward. You can be a sub without being a worm.
9. Stop masturbating so much. When was the last time that got you anywhere? A woman can tell subconsciously when you're mentally exhausted from releasing so much. Why do you think denial works so well? because it fills you up with a fun energy and appreciation for her.
You're just frustrated. Identify what you really need and cool yourself off.
which leads us to....
10. STOP BEING NEEDY.
Your domme is not your mommy to carry you and do everything for you. Fill your own cup. She is here to comfort you, but not because you NEED her. No begging. No whining when you cant get what you want.
11. Recognize synchronization with people. Girls will like you because they admire you in some way, or would like to be like you. She wants someone who she would honestly feel awesome to be in their shoes. Fearlessness! Openness! Freedom! Not fearful, closed off, and victimized.
Women like it when you EMBRACE emotion, not hide from it. You are thriving in the emotion because you ARE receptive to it. That's what is attractive in the first place.
12. BE A PARTNER