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Hi everyone, my first post on here signed up today and looking for advice. I have been reading about edging and denial and want to give it a serious try in January, cumming once in the whole month or a dry January, but tried going from boxing until new year eve and failed miserably. I would like to hear anyone else's first experience and any advice on how to commit to a new found enjoyment, a daily limit on edging, how often to edge, is it too much of a big step for my first attempt etc etc, basic things I would need to know to help make it last. Any advice is thanked upon, hopfully speak to you all soon :D

CuriousGentleman wrote:Hi everyone, my first post on here signed up today and looking for advice. I have been reading about edging and denial and want to give it a serious try in January, cumming once in the whole month or a dry January, but tried going from boxing until new year eve and failed miserably. I would like to hear anyone else's first experience and any advice on how to commit to a new found enjoyment, a daily limit on edging, how often to edge, is it too much of a big step for my first attempt etc etc, basic things I would need to know to help make it last. Any advice is thanked upon, hopfully speak to you all soon :D

A month is a long time for a first attempt, I would try 2 weeks first.
Being accountable to some one also makes a difference, having to admit to them you failed is a good incentive.
If you ask nicely you will probably find someone on here who will do that as a one off.
Another option is to do one of the longer term teases that tease and deny you, like surrender into chastity, giving up control or a month with jana

I think I started with like 4 days or so. It is probably best not to try more than you have attempted to reach before if you didn´t make it. Little steps will help you reach your goal. And I would definitely say if your aim is really to not cum until your scheduled date just don´t stroke too much. If you are stroking and you realize that you are getting too much into it, do something different (something you like).
And I think it is also useful to get into the right mindset and make it a very important goal. Motivation is everything.

Okay, if this is your first time with tease and denial, than let's keep this realistic. Forget one month, aim for about five days. With daily teasing that can already be challenging. If you don't masturbate at all and just keep your self busy with non-sexy things, then it's relatively easy to go on for a week or two. But where's the fun in that? With constant teasing, it's much harder. If you've lurked the forums a bit, then the regulars here might make this look easily achievable, but it's not. These people are doing this for years, so don't try to get there right away, you will fail.

As for edging and all that, I recommend Ms. Julie's teases, they are excellent for learning how to do it properly.

The most important thing is to aim for realistic goals. One month denial with daily teasing right off the bat is NOT a realistic goal.

A week (or 5 days) isn't totally unrealistic for a start. You might try to limit yourself for how much masturbation/play time occurs during it. Look at the various forum games that have been held (for short periods of time) to get an idea. It definitely takes time to get used to the higher excitement/horny level from denial and edging/holding edges.