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So some teases ask to ruin multiple times in a day, often one right after the other. But when I get just over the edge and let go, most of the time itll trickle out without pleasure but I'll still use all my sex drive. Occasionally only spurts will come out and I can keep going but I'm not sure that counts? Feels pretty ruined to me but if im supposed to be horny after... Is this normal?

You aren't really supposed to be anything. We are all different, and some people react to the same things in different ways. In regards to ruins, it can also depend on how it's done.

Don't worry if You aren't excited after. Or if You still are. It's normal. (=
It's up to You to figure out what effect different things have on You, and if it's something You like (Or don't like, in regards to punishments).

Some people can't even "ruin". And that's okay too.

It's the same thing for me. Libido drops, quite like after a full orgasm.
But nothing I think, one should would worry about.
Embrace what, who and how you are instead.

Do you have to be horny after a ruined orgasm?

Definitely not. Almost always some libido will be lost. I would say that this is part of the frustration, to stroke to near orgasm, to stop and ruin and then to lose that feeling of horniness. All that build-up for nothing; that's a large part of the erotic fantasy.

It almost seems that the more cum you release, the more libido you lose. If you want to remain horny afterwards then try to cum as little as possible. Yes I know you maybe can't control it, but what I'm saying is that ruin-once, hopefully a small amount, and then stop. Don't keep playing and trying to ruin again. Ruin a small amount, stop. Most guys can't do this. They keep going and going, so no wonder they are empty and have no desire afterwards. Just get that first drop no matter how small, then stop.