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If you have or have ever had a sub/slave how often do you let him cum? Do you ever have actual sex with him? Do you ever blow him?

I'm just wondering, because if I ever find a Mistress it will have to be one that does those things, and I want to know if Mistresses like that are hard to find.

There is one thing that you can count on when it comes to women.... that you can't count on anything about them.
But that, my friend is not a bad thing. It is uncertainty, yes. But this is a beautiful thing! No domme is the same, and this goes doubly for sex. There will ALWAYS be variation. There will always be dommes who fuck and/or blow. There will always be dommes who would like to take this away or never blow at all (Cruel Natalie mentioned that she would never give head).

"hard to find" is something that you will always define yourself. it's only as hard as you make it

jackstock wrote: "hard to find" is something that you will always define yourself. it's only as hard as you make it

I disagree, finding a real domme
that you do not pay, to me almost seems like an unobtainable fantasy.
you CAN find a strong woman who does like some control in the bedroom.
but talking to the other married couples here on Milovana
a real relationship is very complicated

as I said in another post if You are asking for something
you are not being a subby...
You should have situations where you follow suggestion/commands.
but if you expect to get exactly what you want... you should be the dom not the subby!
being a subby means submitting your will to another (much of the time)
maybe.. MAYBE as a reward...you will get something you desire.

I did find my wife/partner/lover on an internet dating site, a vanilla (site) one at that.
be aware that often adult sites and women who say they are doms.. some of those are scams asking for money.. it IS possible.. but you do have to work hard at it!

Hello Egoist *smile*

I am a Domme and thought I would respond to your questions. I can't speak for anyone but myself.
I Domme online, not the outside world, except once in a while I take control of my husband.

I believe that it's an individual choice of what is enjoyed by "Her", as to how she will react to you.
As for me, I will allow a submissive to cum, when I feel that they have reached the limit of what they can stand to be in denial. And sometimes I will have them cum, several times in one day. Both please me.

I do have penetration, if the mood strikes me...but in order to do so...I have to trust the submissive to do as they are told, during that time.

And yes, I do give blow jobs. I have always enjoyed them, and do not care if it might be out of the ordinary, I do what I do, because it gives me pleasure to do so.

I wish you well, as you search for the right fit to the needs you have. *Smile*

Thanks Miss Shell! That was a really helpful response!

No problem, darlin and you are welcome *smile*

Thank you for your view on the question and welcome to the site ;)