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Hi guys and girls,

As you can already imagine, i want to say a few things about blackmailing.

I am totally into blackmailing. I love the feeling about being blackmailed to do something. I have no other choice and some people think its the ultimate way of domination.

But it always comes with a lot of risk. I am personally willing to give a few private info, since it wouldnt work without. However the information must not be to private. If the other person publishes it, it should not destroy my whole life. It has to be something which i want to avoid to be published with for example the pics. But if it happens, i do not want my whole life to be destroyed, yet I should be afraid about it being published.

I only had positive experience but I think it always comes with risk.
Did you have any bad experience yet?



If you are interested, feel free to pm me about blackmailing, I am always willing to discuss a blackmail relationship (best if done via kik)

I am always curious what kind of jobs people who
think they want blackmail have...
If I was ever discovered I would lose my job, licence... and years worth of work...
so I frankly have never understood the whole appeal..

I understand the idea of doing something kind of risky as a turn on...
but this kink... frankly Eludes me on the why's

Good point, that is how I actually think about it, too. However I just cant resist it, since it is such a High level of control... It has a lot to do with trust...

People that I know who are into this and play successfully learn how to play safely. You have to be able to get into the head space and with someone who you work with that also has experience. I've seen this really backfire on a few guys. Personally I think its stupid to take such risk for a hard on or sex.

When we role-play we work at getting into that space. For some its a simple switch and others it takes a little longer. It could be words or actions that move you into that space. This is what you work on with someone. With some of my play we also might use a pretend third party to mediate the details or make it hotter.
example- I am a trusted friend and you're sharing the details of a relationship gone out of control.

The reality is that no one can do something that you really don't want to happen. It's just a question if you'll become a skilled player or someone who takes crazy risk knowing the stakes are really high.

I had a very nearly disastrous experience with a Mistress I knew from online but had been submitting to on webcam for close to 6 months and otherwise had enjoyable experiences and an increasingly trusting relationship with. We were on cam often and I knew she took screen shots of compromising punishments which she used for humiliation, but none showed my face so she could post them on fetlife when she wanted. We talked about possibly trying blackmail and eventually i gave her my email password to try it out. She composed an email draft with pictures of me naked in various prone bondage and cbt scenarios (no head shot but ppl i know would likely easily recognize my build. Nothing was ever sent, but she used this to make me do a number of things outside my comfort zone and questionably unsafe, things i otherwise never would have submitted to. Afterwards I was able to boot the duplicate log in and change the password, but It was in no way a positive experience and could have gone far worse. I don't advise blackmail play because of my experience, though there may be ways to be safer, I just dont think its worth the risk.

The concept of blackmail has interested me for a while.

I'have never experienced blackmail of any sort, and I'm probably in no position to either, though it hasn't stopped me from looking into it. Almost every single time I've came across it, people have been adamant it should only be a fantasy, and nothing more.

However the question I'm left with is can it be fantasy, AND a little more?

The part that I've found hard to grasp for a while is how "embarrassment only" blackmail can even work, what information can be compromised or fabricated enough to create that feeling of a fantasy becoming reality without, as you guys say, ruining your life.

This is where it then leads me to think of one more criteria - "Who should the blackmail material be exposed to?". To me, the point of "ruining your life" almost certainly comes from for example close relatives, friends and coworkers finding out about the information. I kind of hit a wall here, but was thinking if humiliation with anonymity could work - for example suitable 4chan boards, maybe create a thread dedicated to the "blackmail" of said person?

Does this sound logical to you guys? I'm really enjoying you all sharing your thoughts, and I think it would be nice to find a mediocrity for blackmail that can work with most folk, though so far it just doesn't feel all that practical.

The only other recommendation I can suggest for people that want to take a little dip into what blackmail MIGHT be like (but probably still very fantasised), is by checking out a script on Sexscripts called "Mandy's Blackmail"
http://ss.deviatenow.com/scripts.php

New to the board, late to the party.
I did actually get tricked into sending a potentially disastrous picture of myself to a femdom. She used the mail timer at http://ss.deviatenow.com/mailtimer.php She successfully manipulated me into letting the timer run out. My fantasy turned into reality real quick.
Here's the thing: she never actually used the picture to blackmail me. She, like most findoms, need you to fill out a blackmail form first giving her permission to actually blackmail you. Otherwise, they could legally be sued. So I think it's safe to send info as long as you don't officially fill out a blackmail permission form.
Thing is, I didn't actually know this at the time. I honestly thought she might use it against me, and was freaking out for weeks.

There's probably nothing wrong with blackmail as a fetish. You could probably find your own little way of doing it between two agreeable parties. But it's really just a game then, and you mostly decide what information you give out.

Actual blackmail is usually done by someone you don't know. Someone you have no want or desire to please. Someone scary. Someone with information you didn't choose to give. Someone you don't know how will react or do. It quite literally sucks.

Be careful.

Yea, I have experience. >w>

its a risk I need to take

JustKrissy wrote:There's probably nothing wrong with blackmail as a fetish. You could probably find your own little way of doing it between two agreeable parties. But it's really just a game then, and you mostly decide what information you give out.

Actual blackmail is usually done by someone you don't know. Someone you have no want or desire to please. Someone scary. Someone with information you didn't choose to give. Someone you don't know how will react or do. It quite literally sucks.

Be careful.

Yea, I have experience. >w>

Honestly I think most of them entertain it in their heads and the risk factors are the elixir that fuels them. There are intelligent ways to do this and a true blackmail fetishist will take the risk into account. The imagination is a powerful thing if you learn how to use it intelligently and creatively.

I knew a guy that set up an entire platform for this fetish. Email, a separate bank account and identity. But he left enough clues and open areas for someone to crack it and REALLY blackmail him. It was actually quite clever. Most women didn't see it or really understand it. His rush was finding the ones that would and seeing how far they would go.

But the reality is you don't really want someone to ruin you. You want someone to have the power to. Big difference

Oh Natalie, your posts are so interesting. Always a breath of fresh air.
Such a Goddess.

jackstock wrote:Oh Natalie, your posts are so interesting. Always a breath of fresh air.
Such a Goddess.

Why thank you! That was truly sweet.

A quick note on real black mail.

In my time in banking I saw fraud from every possible perspective. One common thing we saw were people falling victim to romance scams. In these situations, the victim thought they were in a real relationship with someone overseas. The good scammers even take someones public profile on Facebook and copy it so if the victim looks into them, they find information that is verifiable in the yellow pages etc or with background checking companies. Often the profiles they used were other people who had fallen for a scam.

One person I worked with had performed sexual acts on cam for her boyfriend overseas. When the scammers finally got around to getting her to wire money so they could come visit she finally got wise to them and told them hat she would send no money. Then they produced the video of the sexual acts that they would release publicly if she did not send the funds.

All that being said.. if you choose to engage in the fantasy (or reality) of consensual blackmail, I would go with a pro like Natalie over a random mistress you find online, or that contacts you via a random email or PM. Dating and social networking sites are where the romance scammers really excel.

I hope no one on this site (or anyone for that mater) ever runs into the situation like the customers I had to deal with who fell victim.

~Skrote

working in phone sex and pro dom you hear some crazy stories. My mother who was a prodom told me a story about a woman in Florida who got a guy to sign over everything "really" and took out several life insurance policies. Apparently he has some serious emotional issues and with the help of this woman went completely over the edge. He drove his car off the hwy and killed himself. My mom said that she has come in contact with the "self destruct" types and warned me to stay clear. Its not something I'd even want to do. As much as I love control and the idea of using a man there has to be some reasonable boundries.

If you're going to "pay to play" my advice is to use a platform like niteflirt because you can see customer feedback and you can see how many years she has worked at her craft. She might be "only a phone sex worker" but some of these girls have huge experience. I also know for a fact that many of them are lifestyle. At least its not some random person (you never know if its a bot or dude) that is fishing to get a few bucks and leave or someone who is more serious with ill intent.

Safe Sane and Consensual no matter how kinky or intense