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This sounds like a classic case of desensitization.
I don't know the exact word, but you are less sensitive than a vanilla man.

To try and fix this, just go on a no touch and no porn week.

You will see, it will really help you get more sensitive and help you reach orgasm faster.
Also, when masturbating, try to grip your cock softer.

I hope it helps

Theman444

I'd try to take a break first.
Your cock will rest and restore its sensitivity, which should help.

And after that try with a lighter grip when you jerk.

teaseme wrote:I have been doing t&d and some mild cbt for many years both by myself and with online mistress. I recently started a vanillia relationship with a fantastic women. I am having trouble cumming durring intercourse and when she blows me. I can edge quickly when masterbating. What can i do if i want to remain in this vanillia relationship?

well... I say
REAL LIFE is most important
if you are in a happy relationship with a lady... that should be your first priority.
I am inferring that you ARE orgasming with your partner...
I am not sure WHY this is a bad thing?

now IF you want to do longer denial while in your relationship...
you could please her with hands, mouth...
I DO recommend at least talking about your desires for denial with your "vanilla" partner.
I would also talk to your online mistress
any Mistress/master should be able to assist you
WITHOUT harming or interfering in your relationship in a negative way.

I think you read this the wrong way around SC. The way I read it, his problem is that he is NOT cumming when with his partner...

"You are trying to solve the wrong problem.
Concentrate on giving her pleasure.
Give her multiple orgasms and she will take care of the rest."

teaseme wrote:?

Why do _you_ think you have trouble cumming with her?

janmb wrote:I think you read this the wrong way around SC. The way I read it, his problem is that he is NOT cumming when with his partner...

Thank you I was confused
one of the things that might help is going no touch, no porn.. so you are more sensitive, at least 3 days before any encounter..
but there could be a LOT of reasons..
would need more details to offer more alternatives.