Yeah thanks for the suggestions, but I have to admit, my thorough long term searches still haven't uncovered a lot of what I'm looking for. About four or six videos, as far as I can tell, have ALL my desired characteristics -- hot naked girl; showing me exactly how to stroke my real dick by stroking a fake dick; while NOT humiliating me.
There are plenty of instruction vids out there which have SOME of the above. But usually there's at least one key ingredient missing. (Well, one ingredient that is key for ME is usually missing.) For example, the girls don't get naked; or, the girls gesture and mime the behavior, but they "air-job" it rather than actually stroking a rather realistic-looking dildo; or, the whole performance devolves into humiliation or cum-eating instructions or "turn the guy into a sissy" type instructions. Basically, I have figured out the characteristics that turn me on but I haven't been able to find them in combination, and certainly not in combination AND abundance.
And, as another final note, I am surprised by this dearth of what I'm looking for. I had thought that my predilections were rather mainstream, and that this particular search would be the MOST mainstream of all mainstream interests, as long as we're searching within the the instructional videos category. I figured it would be the norm. But instead I'm learning, that the market has produced very little of that; whereas, it's evidently produced FAR MORE videos that center on cum-eating, humiliation, hetero males being instructed to give blowjobs, or other "you're such a loser worm" characteristics than I would have anticipated. Are there REALLY that many men who want to be humiliated or sissified out there? Or, is it actually more the case, that a large percentage of consumers are pretty much as I guessed, but they're not being catered to, and instead the providers misread the market and let their own interests subtly influence what they choose to offer?
I think the latter. What else can account for the large amount of women-dominating-men videos in the instructional category? It's got to be either (a) the buyers (men) want those kinds of videos and the women therefore are providing them for profit, or (b) the buyers don't necessarily want, or not want, those kinds of videos, but the women are providing them out of their own motivations. If I've predicted correctly against (a) (of course, a subjective prediction at best; but, uh, COME ON man not EVERYONE out there wants to be a sissy!), then (b) is all that's left. The women produce dominate-the-man videos because the women like dominating the men.
Which I guess is a fun fantasy for some people, in its own right. :)
Interesting investigation.
[[ Just for the sake of preventing any potential miscommunication, I'd like to add, I don't denigrate anyone's preferences. If you like what I don't like, or vice-versa, that's entirely up to you. When I say that I "predicted" some certain set of preferences going on out there in the general population, I certainly don't mean that my prediction is of the preferences that I think are "right" or "better" preferences. I just mean that I'm predicting what I think is LIKELY. Any preference is an OK preference, by me, as long as it doesn't harm another (unwilling) person. Maybe my predictions are dead wrong? ]]