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My wife is talking about a breast reduction
She is double D

my initial reaction... Hell no.. with a feeling of loss and pain.
Now I like to think I am an enlightened guy
and I know about the back pain issues for her and other good reasons for it.

My wife wonder if it was cultural to me, a white guy since she was black.

why do I feel like it is taking something from MY manhood?
is it genetic tribal ...that somehow, my status in the "tribe" is lost ??/ (even though I am not a caveman?)

there is got to be something very primal about it.

now what ever she decides I will support her 100% so please don't give me replies on how to change her mind,
... that is not what this is about.

I am looking at Why it such a "gut" reaction? all thoughts positive/negative welcome

Off the top of my head, I can think of 2 or 3 reasons based in instinct. One would be simple personal preference for larger breasts. Another is kinda based in the first, but it might be fear of change. Lastly, wide hips and large breasts are related to fertility, a trait we are often instinctively drawn to.

On a completely different note; your grammar was a bit off in this post, most uncommon for you. Are you of African decent, or is it your wife? Though, I wouldn't think it really matters, just that I got a bit confused.

Plus side, if there is anything off about the SHAPE of her breasts you would like changed, you could have it touched on if she goes through with the surgery. Also, props about being so supportive. I know plenty of guys who would have a tantrum like a 3 year old if their wife thought of doing something like this.

First of all you have to ask yourself? Why is it that men ( the majority of them ) are attracted to big breasts or other traits like hips, ass, a nice smile etc?

It's all because of our animal based nature. It's something we have no control over it but we don't realize because of what psychologist name as backward rationalization. Your genes guide you to find the most suitable mate for them to reproduce and continue their circle of life but you think you are the one who is making the choices.
Let me explain. You see a woman with big breast so you give the signal to your genes that this lady will be a good nurturer to a baby if you mate with her so they will continue to exist . It's the same with all the traits men find attractive.
breast = a good nurturer
hips, ass = fertile
long legs = athletic = healthy
smile = enjoyable personality plus a good set of teeth = health

But the catch is, you don't see a woman with big breast and think "OMG I want to mate with her because if she has a baby she will be a good nurturer and raise it good so my genes will continue on and on"
You just feel an urge. It's called sexual attraction. You want her because she is "hot" ====> backward rationalization.

It's the opposite of an other term psychologists use, cognitive dissonance which is the trick your brain uses to justify something you already did so you won't have an inner conflict. For example someone even though he is devoted to one girl sees an other woman and feels arousal. He will justify it by telling himself she was hot and provoking him.

I hope I helped. I'm not an expert in psychology just a fan of the subject. I believe your inner (gut as you name it) feeling is because of what I said earlier. We are all just mere puppets of our genes and animal nature.

Forgive me for any English (grammar or other) mistakes. It's not my language.

Yeah, Treyp said it better than I did.