So I have had an interesting turn of events in my sex life this week. (Sorry this is so long, but there is a lot to tell).
I have been with my wife for 8 years now (married for 3.5). While she is a very sexual person, she is not very kinky. I on the other-hand have always been interested in BDSM type stuff and practiced a lot of self bondage before I got together with her. I never had the guts to bring up my kinks with my previous girlfriends and it took me a couple of years to work up the courage to tell my (now) wife.
While every once in a while she would indulge my fantasies, it wasn't very often. Maybe twice a month (which in my book isn't a lot when we fool around almost daily). Even then most of the time I only got what I would consider a 100% effort out of her on special occasions.
Within the last couple of years I have added T&D to my list of kinks. Again I tried to get my wife to do this to me, but she didn't seem to understand it and didn't like not making me cum. Most I've gotten was maybe a day of denial and most of the time she would pretend like she was going to deny me but come back and push me over the top.
Well that changed this week. She was giving me a hand-job and asked if I wanted to cum (hinting that maybe some denial was on the table). I told her that it would really turn me on if she didn't let me cum. With the way it was going it seemed like she was going to do her typical "but I like making you cum" thing and push me over the edge, but she didn't. The next day, she starts teasing me again when I get home from work, but the conversation tone changed a bit. It went from her asking "do you want to cum?" to asking "how many days do you think you can handle not cumming?"
Well I am on day 5 now of denial, which has included 6.5 different teasing sessions. She has really gotten on board with it and is really enjoying the tease. She has also noticed that it has put me in a much better mood and that I have been more attentive to her (not something I did consciously, other than a little bit of the extra attention).
Today she was asking me if I was ready to cum yet. I was hesitant to say yes because I was really enjoying the denial, but it is very hard to say no while she is playing with my cock and it has been 5 days. I don't know if I have gone 5 days without cumming since I discovered masturbation! So instead of answering I tell her "you know regardless of how I answer you can keep the denial up indefinitely, right?" (Maybe a choice of wording there I might come to regret). She responds "oh I know, I just want to know how bad you want to cum now." I was way to turned on to say no at that point so I start begging her to make me cum. She stops playing with me and says "no, no cumming for you. I think I may keep this up for weeks."
As if all of this wasn't great enough already, the subject of chastity came up during on of the teasing sessions. She asked if I had been masturbating and I said no. She said that maybe to be sure she should lock me up. I kind of treaded lightly on the subject because I wasn't sure if she was serious or if it was some dirty talk, but after a couple of conversations turns out she is also on board with the idea of getting a chastity device.
Chastity has been a fantasy I have always had, but I figured with my wife's lack of kinkyness it wasn't something that I was ever going to experience. I don't know what has gotten into my wife this last week, but the fact she is loving teasing me daily and is also interested in getting a chastity device has left me over-the-moon excited.
So now I have to pick out a device. I would love to get something from Mature Metal, but my wife doesn't like the idea of a metal cage. She is paranoid that I am going to get in some sort of accident and they won't be able to get the cage off and my penis is going to fall off or something. She wasn't something that can be cut off easily. With all the mixed reviews I've seen for the CBx000 devices, I decided against those as well. I think I have settled on trying a Birdlocked device.
The only problem I am having now is measuring for it. I did the string test, but I got a result that was off their charts. While I don't have anything to be ashamed of down there, I'm not going to have porn producers knocking down my door trying to sign me either. I'm not sure if the 5 days of tease and denial have left me a little "fuller" than I might be otherwise or not. Maybe I'm just doing the test wrong.
I also considered the Neo2 because their website advertising it as accommodating multiple sizes, but I am having problems finding any real-world user reviews on it. The few that I have found seemed to have issues with the device in general (seems like this is true no matter which device) and not specifically the sizing. I would hate to spend the money on it to find out it doesn't work.
I'm heading out on a trip next week, but I will be ordering something when I get back. I can't wait to try out chastity and am wondering if I will be 2+ weeks into constant tease and denial by the time it arrives.
