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ruining a women's orgasm
Posted: Sat Nov 03, 2007 3:14 am
by switch boy
I was wondering if anyone had any ideas of ways to do this?
While giving oral to a women I have abandond, which was apperently rather frustrating, but are there other things I can do to make it more frustrating?
Posted: Sat Nov 03, 2007 7:20 am
by backstrokin
Just have sex with her.
Ba-Doom-Cha!
Posted: Sat Nov 03, 2007 12:43 pm
by leeness
Hi try
http://www.tantalism.org/ its a group for peeps into female orgasm denial. The the same techniques used here for men work just as well on women (repeated stimulation with orgasm denial) except that women dont physicly need to orgasm, though she will want too

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Try allowing your playmate an orgasm with a vibe as long as she is standing, feet about shoulder width apart with hands flat on a wall. If she can hold it inside no handed all well and good but most women will find it slipps out when they get close.
Best of luck Switch Boy
Posted: Sat Nov 03, 2007 3:35 pm
by dark
The great think about female orgasmcontrol is the possibility to force orgasms. It's much easier to do that with a female I think.
Posted: Sat Nov 03, 2007 4:35 pm
by Crazy Achmed
I've tried to deny a girl an orgasm before, and it didn't go over very well. I'd recommend keeping your head and crotch out of their kicking range.
Two specific tantalism threads
Posted: Sat Nov 03, 2007 5:08 pm
by camel
Posted: Sat Nov 03, 2007 5:56 pm
by Xenophobe
Hah! If she can tolerate it well, you can really drive a girl wild. Sadly, my current partner is one that can't. She just gets pissed.
Posted: Tue Nov 06, 2007 5:19 pm
by chastiseme
Xenophobe wrote:Hah! If she can tolerate it well, you can really drive a girl wild. Sadly, my current partner is one that can't. She just gets pissed.
i hope you'll be wearing a cup when you feel brave enough to try it with her

this is an interesting forum
Posted: Wed Nov 07, 2007 2:18 pm
by toolman2810
Yeah there is no doubt women can get sexually fustrated. It just seems their not so turned on by visual images in a general sense.
What I reckon might be fun though if you have your partner in a bondage enviroment. I have found it is not uncommon for a woman to get pretty clit ticklish after orgasm. I wouldn't mind trying to exploit this oneday & see what happens.
Re: this is an interesting forum
Posted: Wed Nov 07, 2007 7:10 pm
by switch boy
toolman2810 wrote:Yeah there is no doubt women can get sexually fustrated. It just seems their not so turned on by visual images in a general sense.
What I reckon might be fun though if you have your partner in a bondage enviroment. I have found it is not uncommon for a woman to get pretty clit ticklish after orgasm. I wouldn't mind trying to exploit this oneday & see what happens.
I've found that it really depends on the woman when it comes to that. Some can't stand their clits being touched at all after orgasm, which can be a lot of fun, just make sure her legs are bound too.
Thanks to everyone for the advice and links.
Re: ruining a women's orgasm
Posted: Wed Dec 05, 2007 11:51 pm
by Alison
switch boy wrote:I was wondering if anyone had any ideas of ways to do this?
While giving oral to a women I have abandond, which was apperently rather frustrating, but are there other things I can do to make it more frustrating?
I'm trying to figure this out. WHY exactly- would you want to deny a woman an orgasm or frustrate her?
Hmmm?
Alison
Posted: Thu Dec 06, 2007 2:28 am
by secretstroker
my poor wife gets a nice licking, then she gets on top and she's primed... just before she cums, I feign a back spasm... she rubs my poor sore back and dickie get's soft... then she asks for doggie style and I finally get to stick my nose in her spicy bum.... if she let's me play back there... I hold off and she get's to cum.... if she pulls away... I concentrate on squirting ASAP.. poor baby...
Re: ruining a women's orgasm
Posted: Thu Dec 06, 2007 3:54 am
by geronimo
alisonx wrote:switch boy wrote:I was wondering if anyone had any ideas of ways to do this?
While giving oral to a women I have abandond, which was apperently rather frustrating, but are there other things I can do to make it more frustrating?
I'm trying to figure this out. WHY exactly- would you want to deny a woman an orgasm or frustrate her?
Hmmm?
Alison
Same reason(s) as you want to deny and frustrate males, I'd think.
Anyway, switch boy, denying a female is different from denying a male. I've heard some women claim that if they're denied over a prolonged period of time, they simply lose interest in sex, meaning they dont get easier to control like males do. That's just what I've heard though, have no personal experience with female orgasm denial as I'm 100 pct submissive myself, so take it for what it's worth
Re: ruining a women's orgasm
Posted: Thu Dec 06, 2007 8:38 am
by trivium1234
geronimo wrote:alisonx wrote:switch boy wrote:I was wondering if anyone had any ideas of ways to do this?
While giving oral to a women I have abandond, which was apperently rather frustrating, but are there other things I can do to make it more frustrating?
I'm trying to figure this out. WHY exactly- would you want to deny a woman an orgasm or frustrate her?
Hmmm?
Alison
Same reason(s) as you want to deny and frustrate males, I'd think.
Anyway, switch boy, denying a female is different from denying a male. I've heard some women claim that if they're denied over a prolonged period of time, they simply lose interest in sex, meaning they dont get easier to control like males do. That's just what I've heard though, have no personal experience with female orgasm denial as I'm 100 pct submissive myself, so take it for what it's worth
thats a stupid thing to say alison, and makes me think you really dont like this section of sex at all. why do you like denying/ruining a man?
i have experience my current gf love me to be in control and in the bed room im the master and she calls me sir.in my past relation ship it was total opersite but i have not quite good at ruining and dont buy into your thery coz it certainly does make them more attentive
Re: ruining a women's orgasm
Posted: Fri Dec 07, 2007 3:29 am
by Alison
thats a stupid thing to say alison, and makes me think you really dont like this section of sex at all. why do you like denying/ruining a man?
i have experience my current gf love me to be in control and in the bed room im the master and she calls me sir.in my past relation ship it was total opersite but i have not quite good at ruining and dont buy into your thery coz it certainly does make them more attentive
Trivium,
I don't like ruining a man's orgasm. I never have said I do. Making someone wait for it so that they have a more intense experience is a different story.
Men and women are different. There are a number of men who crave teasing and denial. A ruined orgasm for most men can be frustrating, but it's a good kind of frustrating- and while you might have blue balls or other physical symptoms, there isn't physiological or psychological harm. If you know that later, there are more delicous things in store- it can be really good.
However, for most women (with the exception of a limited number of female submissives), a ruined orgasm isn't a good kind of frustrating. Because of a woman's anatomy, self-esteem, hormone levels, and general overall well-being, it is much harder for women to get to a true pre-orgasmic state. Most women are not naturally orgasmic, and very few get the stimulation that they need. This is compounded by the fact that most women reach orgasm differently. Some women come from vaginal intercourse. Some women need light clitoral stimulation. Other women need a jack-hammer of a vibrator on their clit. Others need Clit stimulation AND vaginal or anal intercourse. Some orgasm from nipple and breast stimulation. We are all different, and what is really great for one isn't always great for another.
My point is: In every study in the Western World- women are disappointed and frustrated with sex much of the time anyway. It's not usually a pleasurable experience for them when their orgasm is ruined. It just sucks.
If you love and care about your partner, you do what feels good for them. If you don't, you shouldn't be their partner.
Alison
PS. If you need a creature to be attentive to you, can I suggest you get a dog?