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So I was just curious how people go about creating scenarios as a dom to their sub. I've been talking to my gf about roleplay, and we're going to try kind of a school boy role play, where she's a teacher and she punishes me for whatever.

So just wondering how one might go about creating a scenario like this, and how it might pan out for some people. Like how do you decide to punish someone, whether its with CBT, spanking, edging, denial etc. How do you decide order?

Also wondering if someone can help me with a way of sort of putting a script in my gf's hand and sort saying "this is what I want to do with this role play, you can pick the order or whatever, but this is what I like." I'm new to the whole sub thing too so I don't know how a real life scenario might pan out as opposed to a webtease.

Just advice, or tips or thoughts in general on this matter are much appreciated.

If anyone really wants to, they could make a "script" in which a dom and sub interact in that sort of role play. By the way, by script I mean sort of actions to perform, not things to say haha. though if you want to include that that's fine too.

like this:

1) Spanking cheeks 10 times each
2) Hitting balls 20 times each
3) Squeezing balls for 30 second increments
4) Spanking cheeks again until red
4) must suck on domme's nipples until satisfied
etc.

If I'm not clear or anything let me know. Tried to get down a lot in one thread haha.

I can't tell you about roleplay scenarios, i.e. plot. I don't like that stuff on my own.

But for the contents of, say, punishment - I say no plan or script will be as fun as just going with the flow and making decisions on the spot. What if I really like the performance of my sub this day and whant to commend her? No plot would be as flexible.
The important thing in playing S&M games is to make every next move a surprise. If you go with "Ok, today it's 20 spanks, then 50 ball slaps, than 5 edges... etc etc" it will not be nearly as fun.

Someone may disagree, but in my opinion a good dom cares first of all about the quality of experience for submissive. Dom may torture sub or even make him/her cry, but the aim of a good dom is not the sadistic pleasure of himself, but rather the pleasure the sub recieves when something is done. Physical pleasure, mental pleasure. The fulfillment of being helpless, the fulfillment of being submissive. The fulfillment of being someone's toy, and even the fulfillment of throwing away his/her own pleasure for the pleasure of the Dom. Mostly, good S&M relationship is about that. And a good dom is happiest the most not by caning the sub to tears, but when the dom knows, that upon doing so he fulfills some of the deep cravings of the sub.

Well, that was a bit of rant. Now what I'd say that no scenario is good enough. The job of the Dom is knowing the Sub well enough to fulfill kinky desires but not go over the line. And as every situation is unique, the Dom should always adapt. And no script or scenario is of help there.

Roleplay things is hard. First of all because it is fantasy, and requires some imagination. Basically in a roleplay S&M fantqasy the sub gets punished for nothing (or some imaginable mistake), which is not as interesting as being punished for something real. But while writing it I invented a pretty devious thing to do with the teacher-schoolboy roleplay. Let her pick a topic. For example, American History of entire XX century. Or let her pick some encyclopedia if you have it at home. She basically prepares 10 devious questions based on this topic or info from the book. They'll be HARD questions, and she doesn't tell you what are those questions. She gives you some time to prepare, and then you have exam with punishments for wrong answers, which, if the questions are right, will be all of them.

Also wondering if someone can help me with a way of sort of putting a script in my gf's hand and sort saying "this is what I want to do with this role play, you can pick the order or whatever, but this is what I like." I'm new to the whole sub thing too so I don't know how a real life scenario might pan out as opposed to a webtease.

This is a very bad approach. I recommend you to calmly discuss your kinks and limits. Make her understand why exactly you like that kind of thing, because she'll feel like she's hurting you for nothing. Ease your way slowly step by step. You can't give her a list saying "10 ball slaps, 20 clothespins..." because she doesn't know your limits and will be scared she's done something wrong if she sees you suffer. Instead, make it an easy one, like 10 ball slaps today. You like it. She does that - and that's it. She will see that afterwards you are completely okay. Make her get used to it, and then she'll be ok with hurting you more. After a while, she'll be ok to make you beg to stop, because by now she knows your limits and she's confident enough (although remember, that Dom should never stop double-checking his/her actons). In half a year she'll be capable of giving you a great session.
But if you are anxious enough to just dive in there straight away - chances are she won't like the experience, because a normal person feels bad when hurting someone. Especially girls. And after feeling bad she may turn off of the whole idea entirely.

Nezhul, well said!

Nezhul wrote:This is a very bad approach. I recommend you to calmly discuss your kinks and limits. Make her understand why exactly you like that kind of thing, because she'll feel like she's hurting you for nothing.

She's done some sort of "punishment" like scenarios with me before. We bought handcuffs, and a paddle actually, and she mostly uses them on me. I occasionally use them on her, but she doesn't like the paddle much so that's rarely if ever used. Anyway, she's done the ball slapping plenty of times, but the spanking has always been a problem. I live with 3 other guys in an apartment style dorm on my uni campus. The paddle can be loud when spanking me haha.

So I guess I should talk to her once before we start the role play, and tell her my limits, though I think she pretty much knows them anyway.

Thanks the advice Nezhul. We won't be together until 2nd week of January anyway, so I have some time to talk to her, or think of other role play I might enjoy haha. I especially like the idea of the testing, that sounds really good.