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CheerfullyInsane wrote:Which I guess makes me below the bottom......
Hmmm..... Nah, not reading anything further into that one.

So, question.... Actually a couple of related ones.
Given that you've done this for a number of years, and human nature being what it is (i.e. fallible), odds are that you've had at least one scene go wrong to some extent.

So would you care to relate what went wrong?
If so, did the sub return afterwards so both could learn from whatever mistake was made?
And finally, being a switch, do you ever incorporate what you "learn" as a sub when domming?

Obviously, if you're demi-god like, and have never had a scene go wrong, I withdraw the above questions.

CheerfullyInsane

Well, I am going to reward you for coming back and asking questions. Each question was to be asked separately, but this one time, I'm making an exception, which you should expect some crap coming your way from the others that had to come back and ask separately. *laughing*

Okay, the first one...
Has a scene ever gone wrong and how.
Yes, things have gone wrong. The things I remember the most was when the subs connection took a plunge or their outside world arrived when they weren't expected to. I think I have only had to bail twice, both times were an emergency that I couldn't have predicted.

Those times can be very irritating for Me and I almost never get right back into the play as though nothing happened.
Things in this world are so real to Me, that I see it in the same way I would see an interruption in the outside world. For example when something interrupts one of My hubbies and I from making love....we don't just jump right back in there..."the mood is gone", so to speak.

The submissive part of Me has had more things go wrong then I have I think. There was one Dom she was with that told her she was cumming, when she wasn't. she excused herself from that situation, respectfully, because it was not a good match.

As far as play that went wrong.....I am racking My brain and even looking over My Black book and I don't see or am reminded of anything beyond the sudden departure stuff.

Oh wait...I found one. There was this one sub that I lightly swatted his cock and he "cried and screamed out". I was in shock and ended it very quickly. I mean, we are talking VERY light swat. I knew he was not a good match for Me.

Reward =

******

Question two....did the sub return so that they could learn. Well some return when the coast is clear, or their connection is restored. I warmly explain that the mood is past. Depending on how they deal with that is whether I devote any more time to them in the future. Learning is a valuable tool in this world...both from the submissive and Dominate one.

Reward =

*****

Third question...yes, I most certainly have used knowledge I have gotten from the submissive side of Myself and used that information when Domming.
I think the most important thing I learned was the after care and making sure the sub has returned to sub space before parting ways.
shell spent time with a Dom that took advantage of her while she was still in sub space and found out personal information that she would not have shared if she hadn't been in serve mode.
I make a point not to discuss deep personal things until I am sure that the sub is "free" to answer or choose not to.

Great question!!

Reward =

lesub wrote:twenty years ago

What would you like a slave to be already trained to do,
and what would you like to train him to do yourself.

I'm not sure what the twenty years ago part is......so I will just answer the part I am sure of. *smile*

First I should say that I do not spend much time with slaves. I enjoy the time with submissives better. Just a personal preference. I want a person to not need humiliation to feel complete inside.

So, answering this using submissive instead of slave......
I would want them trained on how to be respectful and address Me. Beyond that...........I don't mind training them to meet My specific needs. I want to train them when to touch, when not to touch....how to breath through pain......how to trust Me.....yep, I would want to train them on everything, pretty much. *smile*
Untraining a trained submissive is harder than crap! Just thought I would add that little tidbit. *lol*

Reward:

AngelAnna837 wrote:Thank you for your answer!

and you are right i was rather shocked :) but i suppose its about about exploration, finding out who we really are :) Lord know that why i came here in the first place :)

But i do have a second question, one i was asked quite recently actually by an old frined of mine

Do you remember your first orgasm? Or is there any one orgasm you have had that stand out above the rest in you mind. (Sorry, i know that 2 questions but they are related in my mind :) )

Looking forward to you answer

Anna

your questions thrill Me anna. *warm smile*

Yes, I do remember My first orgasm. I was..........four years old. That's right.....I remember it. *lol* I was in My bedroom...and had told My mom that I was going to go read the Bible. *giggle* And no, I don't believe I'm going to hell for that. Papa...(God) and I have talked about it.....and all's well. *smile*

I was very active, all through growing up, with masturbating. I taught my best friend in Kindergarten how to use a metal teaspoon for pleasure. *giggle*

As far as one orgasm that stands out more than any others....oh dear Lord.....that's asking a lot. *laughing*
The first one that came to mind....I shall go with that one.

It was one of the first times I was with Hubby2. He is very well endowed. The girth...well it scared the hell out of Me the first time I saw it. *lol*
One of the first times, when the fear was gone and I finally rested down fully on him....I came...just like that......no stroking.......no clit stimulation......just from the way that He felt inside.....the way he filled Me up. *smiling at the memory.....squirming at the memory*

Reward =

woo! 5 's

*scoots off to find Indy*

[Off Topic] Wow, reading all those answers is really revealing what a wonderful person you are![/Off topic]

I was very active, all through growing up, with masturbating. I taught my best friend in Kindergarten how to use a metal teaspoon for pleasure. *giggle*

Bindo wrote:*... rushes into the thread!*

That was a lot to read - but a really interesting (and very sexy!) read! Thanks for sharing so much, Lady X. And Your answers to the woodchuck and Monty Python questions made me laugh a lot too.

Okay, I have several questions! But one at a time. Since Your introduction to Milovana, what has been Your favourite moment, or task given?

EDIT:

Hmm actually You already said You loved the 77 Edges thing - I also loved that btw - for its originality alone and involving physical pain/exhaustion that made me feel weak and controlled in a very different way.

Okay a fun one! What famous person would You most like to dominate?

For catching yourself....and editing.....you get a reward...... And yes I loved the 77 task!!! A LOT! *grin*

What famous person would I most like to Dominate....hmmmm....Well, I will go with who came to mind first. *lol* And yes it's a repeat of an early answer. Adam Lambert. What can I say.....??? I think he is incredibly sexy....and that he is gay.....to dominate him....to watch him lick the warmest place on Me...knowing it's not his preference....................*fans face* FUCK! *grin*

Reward =

lesub wrote:fifteen years ago

What would you like a slave to be already trained to do,
and what would you like to train him to do yourself.

Ahhhh, I get the years thing now...that I have seen this and the next question. *smile*

The answer doesn't change........but no fault to you.....soooooo....

Reward =

lesub wrote:ten years ago

What would you like a slave to be already trained to do,
and what would you like to train him to do yourself.

lesub wrote:Five years ago

What would you like a slave to be already trained to do,
and what would you like to train him to do yourself.

lesub wrote:one year ago

What would you like a slave to be already trained to do,
and what would you like to train him to do yourself.

lesub wrote:just before milovana

What would you like a slave to be already trained to do,
and what would you like to train him to do yourself.

I'm only giving one reward for all of these......since the answer has been given......

Reward =

*laughing at anna and Indy play with the bouncing smiley faces*

Wow lots of great questions and sexy answers!

I'm curious to know when was the first time You had a "mind orgasm" as You call it without any stimulation? I'm thinking how old were You? Was it something You learned as You got older and got to know Your body better or have You always been able to do that?

And yes I believe that counts as one question even with multiple questionmarks.

janmb wrote:

Lady X wrote:I can't help but wonder if you asked this because of what took place over on the Easter task. *smile*

Of course it was miss

While both the question and the answer were pretty obvious, it's a fascinating topic none the less, since tease and denial often quite easily can stray into the gray areas where things can become unhealthy (especially CBT if lacking the necessary control/sanity)

Thanks so much for the reward - may I ask more questions?

I agree that everything done in this world and the outside world need to be done within the guidelines of safe, sane, consensual. *smile*

you may ask as many questions as you like. *smile*

green wrote:[Off Topic] Wow, reading all those answers is really revealing what a wonderful person you are![/Off topic]

I was very active, all through growing up, with masturbating. I taught my best friend in Kindergarten how to use a metal teaspoon for pleasure. *giggle*

*smiles* Well thank you darlin

Indigo wrote:Vostè ha dit molt sobre els tipus de submisos que agrada passar temps amb, i he estat molt impressionat amb el seu nivell de compassió. Molts Femdoms (almenys que jo he trobat) semblen massa dures. Amb això en ment, com fer front a una submisa a qui havia tingut contacte regular amb els que van dir que estaven tenint un problema de gelosia?

Okay, I used Google's Translator and tried every language I could think of to decipher this.......Want to give Me a hint??? *laughing*

Do You sometimes burst into little fits of uncontrollable laughter if You cum hard because everything is so sensitive and the feeling is overwhelming or is that just one of my personal little quirks?

(I have heard that some girls cry because of all the pleasure though I've never met one like that, I think that's kind of the same thing happening, uncontrollable emotion)

(If I'm receiving post orgasm torture I sometimes switch back and forth between screaming for mercy and laughing my ass off. I really have to be tied down for that or I'll overpower the girl doing it to me and wrestle her off me! )

*cough* gaelic *cough*