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DoxysTurtle wrote:Subsequently I can admit to having had to ruin more than one orgasm by either pulling out or having my gf and I stop any movement with myself in her, so that when I got over the edge, I suffered the agony of feeling my orgasm and that feeling of release slip through my fingers. I can say that a ruined orgasm while inside someone can be extra frustrating and horrid (I really am not a fan of ruined orgasms when I can avoid them).

Thanks for sharing your experiences!

I'm assuming for the ruined pull out you don't do it like most men who keep going until right before it comes out? Or that when you do get it out you don't rub it against her or touch it much?

In regards to edging and being held on the edge from sex, with practice it becomes very doable and easily doable to some extent. It definitely gets easier in many ways with time and practice to avoid going over the edge.

I agree, I think edging during sex is pretty normal and a lot of fun. No point in barreling forward until he cums. It gets more difficult after 3 or 4 successful edges though.

I can say having her orgasm on my cock during denial is both incredibly satisfying in my getting to please her, incredibly frustrating in not getting that bliss as you feel her warm, tight, wet pussy contract over and over again on your hard cock. I also have had a ruined orgasm from her orgasming on my cock, that may rank as the worst ruined orgasm I've ever had.

Wow, I wouldn't have thought that was possible. I'd think the grasping, clutching motion would push any guy well over the edge into a full cum.

For others interested in trying, I will admit to the extended pleasure condoms (ie they have a very tiny amount of numbing lubricant) as being helpful, especially towards the end of my denial, when only the fact that I know how bad I would feel for an unpermitted orgasm, and having a VERY understanding gf, who's willing to put up with my need for pauses and rhythm changes, give me any remote chance of not having a full release.

Ooh, that's a good idea -- I like it, except that it involves a rubber unfortunately. Doesn't it help ruin the orgasm even if you have a real one since you won't feel as much due to the numbing gel?

PS. For those wondering, Mistress often permits me a full release with my gf, when I'm allowed a release, as both my gf and myself would really miss the closeness and connection felt from us getting to orgasm together.

Definitely! Just curious though, do you still have 'accidents' when trying to hold off or ruin?

I'm jealous of everyone who can have a ruined orgasm. When I try to do that, i actually have an almost full orgasm hands-free. And the longer I tease myself before, the stronger orgasm and less frustration I get. Maybe if I had someone to disturb me during cumming (verbally or psyhicaly) it would take away some more pleasure, but unfortunately I still play this game solo. Similar problems anyone?

Do you stop stimulation early enough? You'll have to find out where exactly your point of no return is and go just a tiny bit beyond that. If you wait until you start ejaculating then it's way too late already.

It also helps to try and relax your muscles in that area as much as possible.

Something else you could maybe try is to prepare a bowl with cold water and ice and once you start coming, lower your cock into it.. the numbness should help (be careful with that though and don't stay in there for too long and all affected areas warm afterwards quickly just to be sure).

Or you could try to stop your cum from coming out of your cock with your fingers/hand without touching the rest of it.

Just some ideas ;)

Do you stop stimulation early enough? You'll have to find out where exactly your point of no return is and go just a tiny bit beyond that. If you wait until you start ejaculating then it's way too late already.

I think I do, I've been playing T&D for almost 2 years now, so I have a pretty good idea where my point of edge and point of no return are. But if I just stop stimulation and let it go, the contractions are strong enough to make it feel almost like a normal orgasm. So I think I need some kind of distraction, because removing the stimulation is simply not enough for me.

Something else you could maybe try is to prepare a bowl with cold water and ice and once you start coming, lower your cock into it.. the numbness should help (be careful with that though and don't stay in there for too long and all affected areas warm afterwards quickly just to be sure).

Mmm, sounds like a great idea! Thanks for this suggestion!

Or you could try to stop your cum from coming out of your cock with your fingers/hand without touching the rest of it.

Are you sure that it's safe?

maybe it's the wrong topic here but i'm with S.M.

if i push myself over the edge the contractions are strong enought to make it feel like a full orgasm.
last time i try to ruin myself i put 2fingers in my ass to distract myself from the pleasure, and somehow i could relax my muscles better so that it works in some strange way. my pc muscle contracted once and a small stream of cum released.
i don't know if that was really an ruined one as i' new to such things but it was defenetly a less enjoyable orgasm.

shell wrote:*blushes* sounds like fun......I for one would love to be used to see if He could keep from moving and start all over again...and all over again...... *giggling*

LOL Shell I agree, can certainly see the benefits!!

Snoopy stop being evil and encouraging ruined orgasms.... Especially the extra frustrating, during sex version

Turtle stop trying to ruin my fun! *Giggles*

Ruins can be lots of fun just not mine! Am just curious about this topic thats all....

Snoopy xx