Questions for the guys

[Shiba]

I know these are kind of broad questions that not everyone will be able to answer but I have some questions.
1.) What do you guys find so attractive about panties, like I get the what's under it, but what really fascinates you about them?
2.) On top of the previous question what's the larger appeal to feminization or sissification?
3.) I get the whole pain is pleasure, but what is the appeal of ball busting for men?
4.) If you've managed, how much more pleasurable is a prostate orgasm over a normal one?
5.) finally, when it comes to edging and climaxing, is there a limit to how far you can push yourself with it, or is it all depending on the person?

Thank you for answering any and giving me a bit of insight into stuff that I'm not that knowledgeable in

[Electro]

I know these are kind of broad questions that not everyone will be able to answer but I have some questions.
1.) What do you guys find so attractive about panties, like I get the what's under it, but what really fascinates you about them?
2.) On top of the previous question what's the larger appeal to feminization or sissification?
3.) I get the whole pain is pleasure, but what is the appeal of ball busting for men?
4.) If you've managed, how much more pleasurable is a prostate orgasm over a normal one?
5.) finally, when it comes to edging and climaxing, is there a limit to how far you can push yourself with it, or is it all depending on the person?

Thank you for answering any and giving me a bit of insight into stuff that I'm not that knowledgeable in

1. I'm not attracted to panties, but in a similar situation, sometimes a really nice looking bra or swimsuit top is just as good as being topless to me. I'm usually a smaller boobs guy, massive just seems out of place to me, I'd rather see a B or C cup than DD or larger.
2. Not my thing, I have kinks that are adjacent to it, but when I play a tease or watch a video that brings feminizatioon or sissification into play, I'll usually try to skip beyond it to get to the stuff I'm looking for(facefuck/deepthroat dildo as an object, not as a fantasy that it's a cock, for example).
3. I'm a masochist and it's just another type of pain, but for me the sudden hit of extreme pain from time to time can really get me going and there's a anticipation/fear component to it too. I don't take part in this too often, oddly enough it's a go-to when I find a top that isn't comfortable with my pain tolerance because for some reason they are often still willing to kick balls or smack them with a ruler or whatever.
4. I've tried so many times to get a prostate-only orgasm, but it's never happened. It feels about the same as a normal orgasm if I'm physically stimulating the prostate while doing things in a way I normally do. I can locate and finger my prostate but I don't feel a thing directly, same with trying to use an aneros type device. A vibrator does bring a quicker orgasm though.
5. Depending on the day, sometimes it's difficult for me to orgasm with standard masturbation with my hand or even with sex using a condom. I can only edge about 5-10 times with my hand and that's with two days of abstaining from orgasm. With E-stim, I can edge about 30 times. I just end up feeling less and less sensitive the longer I masturbate or have sex, I learned most chicks really don't want to have sex for 45 minutes, so I need to orgasm before I either get turned off or lose sensitivity. E-stim is different, I've went at it for hours and it's not uncommon for me to make a 2 hour run multiple times a week including countless edges if I'm in the mood for a stop and go sort of thing.

[Majikthise]

Obviously, no individual can speak for such a large and diverse group with any real authority; but here are some of my thoughts:

1.) What do you guys find so attractive about panties, like I get the what's under it, but what really fascinates you about them?
-They aren't a huge fascination for me, but they can certainly add a certain allure when a sexy young lady is wearing a skimpy pair of panties either by themselves or along with some cfm heels and maybe some sexy lingerie. It's also pretty sexy when a lady uses a worn pair of panties to gag her partner.

2.) On top of the previous question what's the larger appeal to feminization or sissification?
-Honestly, this isn't one of my kinks; but I think the appeal lies with the taboo. The idea that social norms dictate that men should not appear feminine or wear women's clothes makes it appealing for some. I also think that it plays into a humiliation kink that some men have (also not my thing).

3.) I get the whole pain is pleasure, but what is the appeal of ball busting for men?
-I think there is room for some nuance here. Personally, I enjoy having mine tied and/or squeezed sometimes. Even some light to moderate impact play can be fun; but that's as far as I'm willing to go; and it is mainly a masochistic pain can be pleasure thing for me. There is also a power exchange aspect that I love; and some toys, like ball presses for example, are genuinely scary, and fear play can be sexy if you trust your partner.

There is also something sexy (and this really is still related to the power exchange) about offering the most sensitive parts of one's anatomy to a dominant woman (who one trusts) who looks sexy in an evil way.

The part of it that I don't really understand is the extreme side of it. Full force kicks or punches, trampling, needles, etcetera. Those sorts of activities are simply too much for me, and IMO they become a turn-off.

4.) If you've managed, how much more pleasurable is a prostate orgasm over a normal one?
-I've managed once, and over-all I found it more frustrating than pleasurable. It is very different, and there is a lot of pleasure involved; I simply didn't find it satisfying at all. It felt more like a ruined orgasm than a climax to me.

5.) finally, when it comes to edging and climaxing, is there a limit to how far you can push yourself with it, or is it all depending on the person?
-The short answer is that I think it does depend on the person. But I think it can also depend on the person's mood and a variety of other factors both mental and physiological. I've heard it said the the brain is our most important sex organ, and I think that is true to a large extent.

I am a switch, and if I'm not in a submissive mood, I generally don't have the desire or self discipline to edge multiple times without climaxing. At other times, I've edged literally hundreds of times and enjoyed several months of orgasm denial at a time.

If you are asking how many times someone can edge in a session, that can also vary. I've experienced sessions where I've hit my first edge in a couple minutes and returned over and over, sometimes holding an edge for 5 minutes or more. Other times, I've found it to be a challenge to edge more than two or three times in a session.

I believe that there are a variety of variables that affect this. How much sleep have I gotten recently? Have I been eating well? Am I well hydrated? Am I stressed about something? How long has it been since my last release? Have I become bored with the scenario or the session? All of these variables and more can play a role in the way I respond to a session, and I think that's true for a lot of people regardless of gender.

I hope that helped.

[Augustulus]

I know these are kind of broad questions that not everyone will be able to answer but I have some questions.

That are some interesting questions. I don't think they can be answered for everyone, but I can share my thoughts about them.

1.) What do you guys find so attractive about panties, like I get the what's under it, but what really fascinates you about them?

I'm not that turned on by panties (trying to change that currently as you know ), I have a thing for thongs as they give an appealing look of the ass in my opinion and it feels naughty to me that there's no second layer of clothing beneath the pants/skirt and cheeks when worn.
In general I would assume that the fact that they touch your intimate parts is such a huge turn on for people as well as the thrill of imagination what lies beneath.

I've also never understood why girls make a different between showing their panties and showing bikini-bottoms. In my opinion it's absolutely the same and I couldn't care less if girls wear underwear or bikinis at the beach. Maybe answering this question gives some more insight on why some guys find panties attractive?

2.) On top of the previous question what's the larger appeal to feminization or sissification?

This one might be surprising, but for me it's the roleplay aspect. You change into another character and get out of your usual routine. I don't want such things to last, but for a set amount of time it's super nice to play as someone else.

3.) I get the whole pain is pleasure, but what is the appeal of ball busting for men?

I don't like pain, but I was able to cum from continuous light taps on my balls only, so I assume that playing with your balls gives your body pleasurable sensations and then it's probably a personal taste how much pain it is.

I would also assume it's similar to the fact that some people need to sneeze when looking at the sun. There it's because of the nerves carrying the information are located closely together and for some people it's so close that the signal jumps over to the other nerve resulting in a sneeze rather than the intended reaction.
So, the signal on the nerves carrying the pain might be able to jump over to nerves carrying pleasure and then you just like it

4.) If you've managed, how much more pleasurable is a prostate orgasm over a normal one?

It depends what you define as a prostate orgasm. I can for example stroke close to orgasm and then use anal stimulation to climax which feels quite the same as a normal orgasm. I've also managed to climax with only anal stimulation and lightly thrusting my hips in the air. Again this feels quite similar to a normal orgasm for me.
In general I think it's your mind that does the most work and with the right mindset you can achieve all kinds of orgasms and they will all feel as pleasurable or as different as your mind wants them to.

5.) finally, when it comes to edging and climaxing, is there a limit to how far you can push yourself with it, or is it all depending on the person?

It greatly depends on my mood. I've done sessions with 300 edges. Sometimes I only edge a couple of times.
It's definitely a thing how horny I am and how tired I am. In general I don't try to go with a certain amount of edges in a session but rather try to limit the time to not go over 1.5 hours as everything above it gets tiring fast
I would say that there's no upper limit to how many edges you can do before cumming. It's again a thing of your mind. With the right mindset you can go for as long as you want (not counting wet dreams).
Regarding climaxing: I've only managed to cum more than once a day a couple of times in my life. I really feel a big low after climax. Definitely would love to cum more, but I doubt that's possible for me.

[StellaRack]

Here is my attempt.

1.) What do you guys find so attractive about panties, like I get the what's under it, but what really fascinates you about them?

I find them very sexy. The tease of being shown something sexual but leaving the stuff underneath up for your imagination. Where you can see a few pubic hairs letting you know she is not shaven down there. It also can convey intent. A red thong can show that she was planning show it off. Where as a more casual Bikini or Hipster can be more down to earth. There is also a tactile part to it. Some designs use lace and sheer material to show more skin. Satin and silks can be shiny and very soft

2.) On top of the previous question what's the larger appeal to feminization or sissification?

The fact that you are doing something that you would not tell your friends and family about. It is a hidden part of you that lets you express your self in a sexual way.

3.) I get the whole pain is pleasure, but what is the appeal of ball busting for men?

Same I don't get it. Never been a fan of CBT

4.) If you've managed, how much more pleasurable is a prostate orgasm over a normal one?

I have not managed this. But is a goal

5.) finally, when it comes to edging and climaxing, is there a limit to how far you can push yourself with it, or is it all depending on the person?

There is different levels of edging. Real intense edging can be hard to quantify and I struggle to not push my self past the point of no return. More lax edging, where you leave your self room, can happen 100s times.

[ccgssdtttew]

I can only answer 1 and 5 oop.

1. Personally, sometimes i feel non-nudes are can be sexier than nudes. Similar to the purpose of lingerie, to appeal and look more attractive. I dont mean to body shame anyone, but not all pussys are attractive to me (to each their own of course). But sexy clothing and undergarments, I find the tease aspect appealing - not that i must see the pussy or wtv, but the fact that its being teased, "so close yet not quite there yet". I guess to draw parallels would be a hot secretary pulling her shirt down to show some cleavage and her bra, like that exact moment is what draws me in.

2,3,4. Not for me / cant relate

5. Definitely depending on the person and their state of mind. There are days where I have no sexual drive after work; and days that I do - both of which I have not released for days. On the days that I am up, if im in the mood MOOD, i can definitely power through more edging. But if im just in the normal mood (i.e. oh yea, releasing would feel good today), I dont really edge or have the will power to fight the point of no return. Overall, i feel it still goes back to how the individual is feeling.

Hope it provides another perspective!

[Spaghetti-Kentucky]

1.) What do you guys find so attractive about panties, like I get the what's under it, but what really fascinates you about them?
Its all about the reveal (or lack thereof). Leaving things to the imagination, teasing me, etc - same thing with 'boobdrop/titdrop' clips. Panties aren't usually shown off for long. Either they are off completely because ya know, porn - or they are under clothes. There's also the cute angle with panties. Show me the bright colours or fun designs (insert some David Attenborough shit here about nature making us attracted to colorful plumage or whatnot ). It makes a change from overly revealling lingere if that makes sense. Let porn be fun! That's what I enjoy rather than hardcore/rough/extreme stuff.


2.) On top of the previous question what's the larger appeal to feminization or sissification?
For me there's a level of curiosity, and maybe even jealousy re: how women experience pleasure versus men. Women can experience 'full body' orgasms while men don't. Women get fun outfits while men don't. Women in general are the center of attention in porn, versus generic 'stunt cocks'. So for me I explore these things in the safety and privacy of my bedroom. I use anal play (see q4) to experience 'taking it' and try for more intense orgasms with my prostate. I get to dress up in fun outfits that I wouldn't dream of wearing otherwise. I am a cosplayer too so I guess there's an overlap there- playing a role by dressing up and emulating the outfits I've seen in porn instead of in comic books. I've been lucky to experience supportive groups online who have complimented by outfits so I get a little sample of the whole center of attention thing too.


3.) I get the whole pain is pleasure, but what is the appeal of ball busting for men?
I am real sensitive down there so ball busting is one of my red lines we do not cross. I have tried it tho. I suppose I can see the appeal as a task or punishment for subs if done responsibly. A sort of 'put me in my place' kind of thing where we're not in control. I am no stranger to taking orders from doms or getting tasks so I get it even if its not for me.


4.) If you've managed, how much more pleasurable is a prostate orgasm over a normal one?
Prostate orgasms are next level for sure! Life changing moment. But I think its comparing apples and oranges. Its a different kind of pleasure. I lose control of my body a lot more than I do with jerking it, my arms and legs shake. It takes longer to build up to, usually around an hour. I get a 'full body' experience - there's a reason its called the p-spot - it links back to q2 and experiencing a different side of pleasure and being in that whole headspace. My cock stays limp throughout and cum dribbles out instead of shooting out so it feels WILD the first few times- its not an orgasm we're used to but its not a ruined orgasm either. Hard to describe but I suppose a normal orgasm is more, um... concentrated(?) with all the nerve endings in the cockhead, with the fact its not much of a full-body experience, and that it doesn't last as long as a prostate orgasm.


5.) finally, when it comes to edging and climaxing, is there a limit to how far you can push yourself with it, or is it all depending on the person?
It certainly depends. There is a limit, but accidental/deliberate ruined orgasms allow me to keep going for as long as I want. Like my cock overflows with cum, but I can restart the process pretty easily. I'm usually done for the day if I cum tho. My record is 3 orgasms in a day. But I've gone for like 8 hours or more with a whole bunch of ruins as needed if I'm holding back from climaxing. There's a mental aspect to this too- my brain drifts to thinking about what else I could be doing with my time, or that I'm watching something tht is just so hot that I can't hold back anymore. Oh and one more thing: remember that the prostate is just another muscle so it can be uncomfortable to push things way too long or way too frequently that it needs time to recuperate same as any other muscle.


Thank you for answering any and giving me a bit of insight into stuff that I'm not that knowledgeable in
Thank you for a fun conversation topic!
Interesting how some of these answers sorta linked together for me...
Maybe questions for guys/questions for girls/questions you've always wanted to know but are too afraid to ask should be a regular thing?

[petslave21]

I know these are kind of broad questions that not everyone will be able to answer but I have some questions.
1.) What do you guys find so attractive about panties, like I get the what's under it, but what really fascinates you about them?
2.) On top of the previous question what's the larger appeal to feminization or sissification?
3.) I get the whole pain is pleasure, but what is the appeal of ball busting for men?
4.) If you've managed, how much more pleasurable is a prostate orgasm over a normal one?
5.) finally, when it comes to edging and climaxing, is there a limit to how far you can push yourself with it, or is it all depending on the person?

Thank you for answering any and giving me a bit of insight into stuff that I'm not that knowledgeable in

1) It's a clothing that covers a lewd part, so it's a little teasing like that. Panties just by itself can be a little hot too knowing someone already wore it and took it off

2) Being trained to be a better girl by someone, and for me I like it more from another girl, is something I like. I like to be trained by a person to satisfy them, like my ex-girlfriend, wearing girl clothing and cumming like one was something she found hot and helping me with it is something that is hot for me too

3) It's targeting the weakest part of a guy that is painful and someone doing that as a punishment or for their pleasure is hot to be used like that by someone you like

4) A normal one feels better for me but a prostate one didn't make me have nut clarity and staying horny like that is hot in its own way

5) I don't think I can cum too many times without taking a break but I can be edged for a really long time, I think a person can encourage me to go alot longer for edging but for cumming maybe it's one or two more times than when I want to stop and then I don't know if I could keep going after that

[PlayfulGuy]

Here's my thoughts.

1.) What do you guys find so attractive about panties, like I get the what's under it, but what really fascinates you about them?

For me this is a two part question. I love pictures of women in panties, bathing suits, lingerie etc. because they're so close to naked, but not naked. It's the feeling of having what I want right there, but also not there. It's very teasing, and makes me horny.

The second part is the feeling of wearing women's panties is quite different than wearing mens, and I love it. It also excites me a bit, and totally amuses me to go out in public wearing them, knowing that know one else knows I am. It feels a little risky, and naughty, and I love that.

2.) On top of the previous question what's the larger appeal to feminization or sissification?

These don't appeal to me so can't help there.

3.) I get the whole pain is pleasure, but what is the appeal of ball busting for men?

For me, pain is not pleasure, it's pain. But some mild to moderate ball busting while I'm aroused and stroking, the mixture of pain and pleasure is oddly erotic, and makes the pleasure more intense. I've often thought that after enough edges I could probably push myself over the edge with some ball busting, and it's a goal of mine to try and do that some day.

Some ball busting during a tease also makes me feel more submissive and controlled. Like I'm paying for, or earning my pleasure, but it has to be combined with the reward of pleasure. Like a give a little, take a little kind of dynamic. We submissive types just like that I guess. For me ball busting on it's own is no fun, it's just pain and punishment.

4.) If you've managed, how much more pleasurable is a prostate orgasm over a normal one?

Haven't managed this.

5.) finally, when it comes to edging and climaxing, is there a limit to how far you can push yourself with it, or is it all depending on the person?

I'm sure this depends on the individual to a large extent. At my age I can only cum once and then I need a couple hours before I can try again, and I rarely try again. If I manage to actually ruin, then I can keep going and then cum later, and I do that often. But I've only managed to ruin more than once in a session on a couple occasions, and it was entirely by accident.

As for edging, by the time I get to a hundred edges I'm getting exhausted. But I'm usually having fun, and making a game of it. I can do 50 edges in a session, and do that 2 or 3 times a day, but then again I'm exhausted, and the next day I usually need a day off any sexual activity. I'm still horny and want to, but it's more my mind wants to, but my body needs the rest.

Hope that helps.

[Jackall]

1 - panties per se are not a big thing for me, but i find the scent of someone im attracted to arousing. so worn panties, socks ... this probably isnt rare.
2 - I enjoy the feeling of tight clothes particularly around the waist and neck, I think this might be a submissive thing on my part vaguely related to enjoying being restricted or presented for use. But im not the best to answer this either. Full feminization would make me feel grotesque (skirt bra wig etc) and I imagine some are turned on by the humiliation of it, im not into it.
3 - Ballbusting is the only kind of pain arousing for me, very direct reminder of being vulnerable and through that, of surrendering to the other. Not against a bit of spanking or nipple torture once im hooked, but having my balls in someones hand hooks me.
edit: it can just outright help to get to the edge too, when some arousal & stimulation is there a bit of pain in that region leads to tensing up and these things combine.
4 - Barely managed once or twice, and there is big difference between normal orgasms too. That said, it is generally more demanding and intense while less sexually satifysing, meaning the arousal and frustration dont fully go away. I think I get a sort of emotional satisfaction from the idea of being bottom / entirely passive / used. That ties in nicely with butt play, having an orgasm is being made to lose control and a prostate orgasm may be the most body-rocking thorough "defeat" I can experience. I instincually try to hold things together and stay in control of myself so pleasure is something I give in to, even when i dont have a ton of willpower to prolong every experience.
5 - With orgasms its 1 and done. Then is post nut clarity. The only exception so far was reading stories with heavy bdsm in settings with worldbuilding where kinky is the norm. Some ideas like that can get stuck for days resulting in cumming twice in a row and up to 5-6 times a day which is a lot for me.
- Edgings: Sometimes I lose it on the first try because I dont feel it properly and push too far. More often, there is a 2nd limit at around 20-30 where I tend to give in if there is no particularly engaging challenge, it feels repetitive or im tired/distracted. The erection is raging and it gets a bit harder, the orgasm more appealing at that point. If im under fine control and its paced well it can go into the hundreds / several hours, but nowadays it feels like the stars need to align for this one. I think the pc muscle can start to give out after 4-6 h enough for a happy accident. Im early 30s and not sure if its a health condition or not but sometimes it can get painful not in a good way with repeated edge holding & days of denial , even in half an hour. Pressure in the seminal vesicles I imagine. So I just clean the pipes at that point but this condition might not emerge for a year at a time, I try not to trigger it though. In short a lot depends on my state and thats just random sometimes, from energy to senitiveness to mood & health.

[boundupone]

Here are some thoughts from me for you -

1.) What do you guys find so attractive about panties, like I get the what's under it, but what really fascinates you about them?

This is not a specific thing for me to be honest

2.) On top of the previous question what's the larger appeal to feminization or sissification?

No, this is something I am not in to at all

3.) I get the whole pain is pleasure, but what is the appeal of ball busting for men?

Now I love ballbusting. It is the combination of the pain and the pleasure for me when mixed with edging for example, especially when combined with strict bondage. Then there is nothing you can do apart from beg for mercy. It is about the control but also just the pure sensations. If you start softer and build up, then you can take a lot more pain later. And busting at the point of orgasm is for sure a very intense experience!

4.) If you've managed, how much more pleasurable is a prostate orgasm over a normal one?

Not something I have specifically tried to achieve

5.) finally, when it comes to edging and climaxing, is there a limit to how far you can push yourself with it, or is it all depending on the person?

For orgasm, even 2 can be a challenge. But the change from being sensitive post orgasm, to starting to enjoy it again, to oh my god, and then a second, normally even stronger orgasm is great. But you will need to be patient and may need poppers and toys if no rest time is given. Edging I find doing myself leads to numbness after a certain amount of time, but the overall experience depends greatly on what I am edging to. If it is mindless gooning vs an intense specific guided edging session the latter will be much more enjoyable. And if it is someone edging me, then then is an altogether more intense and enjoyable experience, again especially when combined with bondage