Getting too excited before masturbation.

[eloelo120]

Hey everyone!
I wanted to talk with someone about it and I think milovana is the best board to do so :)
Like you read in the title, I am getting too excited before masturbation. This might sound weird but let me explain what do I mean by that.
So, since I can't really remember, I've been struggling with being too excited before I am planning to spice my wanking session. When I am not planning wanking, like I am just going with my day and just before I am going to sleep I decide to masturbate to something vanilla (like lesbian porn) everything is normal. By normal, I mean I don't "suffer" any of soon listed nuisances.
When for example I change porn category for something out of my comfort zone (transexual, JOI, gonewildaudio) my body just becomes shaky, like I am shaking every couple of seconds (like I would start to get cold). It is manageable, because it most of the time just stops when I start masturbating.
When I actually plan what will I do this evening, it's starting to mess with me harder. First symptoms appear like 2/3 hours before. It's like I am starting to stress, I can't really focus, I can't eat, I have urge to poop (not diarrhea, but I need to poop badly). Strength of this depends on what I planned. If I wanted to do some anal (which I consider as the most "crazy" one because of need for preperation), urge to poop is comical, even tho I would poop twice this day, I need to do it one more time like 80% of times. When I plan to play a certain webtease I find really hot, it would still stress me.

It's frustrating, I am not masturbating that often, I guess 2 times per week on average. Most of my faps lately have been the "spicy" ones, since I do not really want to masturbate to vanilla stuff when I have all of different ways to enhance my pleasure (clothespins, maybe a shoelace). I am into anal, I love to watch it on porn and I enjoy doing it, but to be fair the only way to do it is not planning it till I am just before my evening shower and I'll decide to do it. This way I don't have much time to stress/get excited about it so the symptoms will just occur for couple of minutes before I start (this is not 100% working strategy, since my brain sometimes can trigger the urge to poop literally seconds after I decide to do anal...). This also doesn't satisfy me as much, because I am not properly horny.
Symptoms often just go away when I am starting to masturbate. I stop shaking, I can focus and I overall feel much better. But you know, when doing anal you would rather be clean (not getting into details).

Clueless about anything that might help me. I suppose I am just overexcited and symptoms appear to be just like ones I feel when actually stressed (like before important exam) and it's not really stressing. I can't find the issue. Anyone of you guys have this weird condition? Maybe something similar? Did you manage to overcome it?

[Drool]

What you describe is perfectly normal. It means that you are young and alive. Excitement is part of the fun. It will slowly fade when you grow older and getting more jaded. So enjoy it now.

[Roblsforbobls]

I felt (and still sometimes feel this way) about trying new sexual things. I would shake uncontrollably on the night leading up to my first kiss, during my first time having sex, trying a new tease or watching a video that I'm not completely comfortable with. It is really hard to tell it apart from being cold, because typically I am naked during these activities, but it's never cold at the time. The first time I tried using a butt plug I got the shakes too, but as I got more comfortable with these things it gradually stopped happening. I imagine the next time I try something entirely new and exciting to me it will happen again. I haven't had it happen hours before an activity, though it might be because I don't think about it too much beforehand. It should go away eventually, I wouldn't worry about it too much. Like Drool said, it probably just means that we're new to stuff and we should enjoy all of these "firsts" while they are still so exciting that we shake in anticipation

[eloelo120]

Thank you for your responses guys. You helped me a lot. I was so lost in this, I would get so upset because of it, totally forgot to enjoy it.
You enlightened me and I've started to enjoy this state of my mind, when I start to feel 'it' I now feel happy, because that's what I suppose to feel, not anger!

Damn, sometimes you just need to see different perspective to change your thinking. I am glad I made this topic.