Teases/Control with more meaning?

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I have always been a fan of "PC Mistresses" and all kinds of computer based kink and computer based control. But when it comes to control, there is some vacuum felt when an order is given (specially those that go outside screen time). If you are into the scene and sufficiently aroused by the fantasy, you are likely to follow through for the duration of it. But there is always more motivation when control is performed by another person. Not only that, but it becomes a lot more exciting.

But why do people resort to cyber-kink and cyber-control? The two main reasons are that a partner is not available or that the person does not want to actually perform the fantasy. In the first case, a partner may be available but not interested in a particular kind of play. In the second case, it is not that the fantasy is not doable in reality but many fantasies are impractical, and some, when tried are not as erotic as they are in our minds (in fact this is the case in a great number of times).

But for whatever the reason, computer based control can always be enhanced by the human element.

The other element that is tied up with motivation and arousal is consequence and/or expectation of completion. When there is a consequence tied to the performance of the action, or when the other party expects proof of deed, motivation changes completely. For some, proving that something has been done is very arousing. But also this can become problematic or cumbersome (setting up a web cam space and performing in front of the camera can be annoying, especially if one wants anonymity).

REMEMBER THIS IS ALL ABOUT FANTASY AND MIND DRIVEN EROTICISM. NOT INTENDED TO REPLACE BUT RATHER COMPLEMENT.

So my proposal here is to brainstorm some ways to enhance the experience by adding a human contact element in a practical way. There have been several attempts of this already:

-Mass submissive control (seen those blackmail/sissy/slave competition teases?) The problem is one of numbers: 1 dom/me vs tons of submissives. Just not enough time, and not enough commitment by submissives to keep the dom/me grinding it out.
-Using facebook images to enhance the fantasy. This, when done non-intrusively, can hold promise.
-Dare forums, where people ask for dares (done in here as well). Maybe too shallow because it is just randomness.
-Social interaction related to the kink (shopping for lingerie seems a common one, asking someone to spit in a cup, etc)
-Getting dominated via chat (dating sites, sex or kink chats, etc.) Hard to find partners, maybe slightly less than in real life.

A few ideas:

-Peer-driven-control: Use a pool of users to provide human control for each other. This could imply users selecting actions/duration, making decisions, confirming actions being performed, commenting, etc. In exchange for the control duties, they receive instruction and control from the other human anonymous parties. When combined with computer based control, it could give minimal trouble to the users involved while providing a more meaningful control scenario.

-Embedding a secret language: Creating scenarios where decisions regarding control are related to input from real people but in a different context. For example, for a slut slave who craves to be trained to be fucked in the ass by big black cock, he/she needs to know how often he/she needs cock training. Perhaps asking someone, a friend or stranger, how often they go for a drink during the week, or get dessert, or if it is appropriate with that person, how many times they need to have sex. Then the response is taken as the actual command. This can be extended past just asking for a quantity. With some creativity it can involve very specific things. Its just a matter of using communication with changed context. Could be exciting.

-Similarity: Many times we cannot get a partner to participate in our kink or the partner we crave in our fantasy is just unreachable for practical/ethical matters (famous artist, boss, married friend, etc.) Creating a virtual character through similarity can make for a more erotic fantasy scenario. Maybe create a dominating wife or GF by finding some erotic pictures/videos of a look alike person. Our brains will automatically be more engaged by the likeness and make the fantasy appear more substantial.

Maybe some of these elements can be integrated when writing teases, or maybe with some of the existing computer software.

What else can you come up with?

[SensEx]

I've been thinking over this "how to bring my fantasies to life and with whom to share these with" for a long time now...

I tried dating sites, some girls over there know how to arouse you and dirty talk but the overall experience will never match your fantasies because there is this gap between the movie we make in our mind and what we get especially if the woman has not really the same kink interest or isnt into you sharing the moment.

The solution to this is obviously webteases and writing your own scripts to arouse you and use all the things that adds emotions like frustrations, all trigger words that project vividly the whole fetish in your mind.

Finding a sexual partner or just a girl that teases you on the internet is so damn hard. Past a certain point in the relationship you have needs she have needs and as will all do things based on self interests the relationship die. Plus, because there is not a strong connection expect your fantasies you get bored pretty fast your brain is seeking something else "a bound".

To reduce this obviously we need to share not only our kinks but also how we see life, what we do weekly like working out and the lifestyle that comes with it. Time isnt really an issue when you see value in the relationship with him/her you'll wait and thats what will bring anticipation and all these magnificent emotional states we are after.


I would also love to see more people jumping in, and sharing their thoughts