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Depends on a person. Like if he/she is good, he'll learn such a lesson and will not bother you anymore, because he knows you disapprove it. But if a person is not good, doesn't care for you - he'll do that again to be "humiliated". However that simply proves his intentions and then you can safely ignore him.

I don't think ignoring people (i.e. not replying anything) right away will eventuate in less PM's. Because there will always be those who can't read the signs and will PM you again with questions like "Are you there?" or "Did I say something wrong?"

I'm not a girl or mistress, so I don't know if there actually are a lot of people who will keep bugging you to be humiliated. I want to hope there are very few. So I think the solution like this thread is OK, because it attracts attention to the subject of all the forum all at once.

Also ignoring people with the board instruments (like limiting their ability to communicate with you) has lots of downsides. It's a good method if someone is trolling you or just eating on your nerves a lot. But if you start adding everyone who PM you in a blacklist - you'll end up ruining the board for yourself.
The situation Princess in is understandable. However the urge to PM is kind of a common thing to many people and it's not something special to me either. I want to talk to someone - I PM. Of course you should respect the feelings of the recieving side, but What I'm trying to say - most people who PM her are good folk who mean nothing wrong, it's just that when all those PMs bunch up that becomes bad.
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I always felt bad for guys who put themselves out there and then get publicly shot down.

Probably worse than they feel about it, actually...

Except for the guys who don't take a hint, but then they don't seem to care if you publicly shame them or not.
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if the person who PM's me is new and doesn't know that they should ask , I treat it as a honest mistake , I tell them that they should ask and that there are rules in the chat room


but there is at least one person who always PM's with out asking and when he PM'ed asking me to be evil and punish him....I told him to watch 200 hours of porn and to write a sonnet, a rap song and a dirty limerick about his favorite male and female porn stars and post it in the forum


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dr.d wrote: but there is at least one person who always PM's with out asking and when he PM'ed asking me to be evil and punish him....I told him to watch 200 hours of porn and to write a sonnet, a rap song and a dirty limerick about his favorite male and female porn stars and post it in the forum
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Oda wrote:I am not sure that is the right way to handle those people. After all many subs are exactly after that. Humiliation and getting orders. So i assume those subs get more a treat than a punishment.
^giggles^ I think you have seen personally how some of my "treats" can become quite frustrating...Don't you Oda ^bites her lip^

But I see you point, but like I said to the admin lady in chat, a girls gotta have her fun!
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Princess Penelope wrote:
Oda wrote:I am not sure that is the right way to handle those people. After all many subs are exactly after that. Humiliation and getting orders. So i assume those subs get more a treat than a punishment.
^giggles^ I think you have seen personally how some of my "treats" can become quite frustrating...Don't you Oda ^bites her lip^

But I see you point, but like I said to the admin lady in chat, a girls gotta have her fun!
I know that indeed. Still i think you could spend the time with people who behave instead of them who dont :P
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I'm not sure this is the right way to go about handling people who PM without permission. There are already suitable consequences in place for people who PM without permission in the chat on this site. More often than not, they do so because they want something to do such as a humiliating task.

This thread means that not only can people PM without permission, but they will get "punished" for it here, however, this is exactly what they wanted in the first place and so more of a reward than a punishment. This is more likely to encourage people to PM looking for something to do as they will ultimately get it from here if not in a PM.

Nobody wants people endlessly PMing them asking for instructions for this and that, let's not encourage them to keep doing it so that they can be sent here for something to do.

If you want to do this for people PMing you on the forum, that's fine as far as I'm aware as there is nothing in place for that (do correct me if I'm wrong), but on the chat it clashes with the consequences in place and may weaken their meaning
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princesscutie wrote:I'm not sure this is the right way to go about handling people who PM without permission. There are already suitable consequences in place for people who PM without permission in the chat on this site. More often than not, they do so because they want something to do such as a humiliating task.

This thread means that not only can people PM without permission, but they will get "punished" for it here, however, this is exactly what they wanted in the first place and so more of a reward than a punishment. This is more likely to encourage people to PM looking for something to do as they will ultimately get it from here if not in a PM.

Nobody wants people endlessly PMing them asking for instructions for this and that, let's not encourage them to keep doing it so that they can be sent here for something to do.

If you want to do this for people PMing you on the forum, that's fine as far as I'm aware as there is nothing in place for that (do correct me if I'm wrong), but on the chat it clashes with the consequences in place and may weaken their meaning

Well I'm sorry to say it cutie pie, but you are dead wrong. Since I called a couple of people out for doing this, and had teacher wanker make this thread I have had very few problems with people PMing me. So clearly it does work.

The idea that people will enjoy being humiliated in such a way has already been discussed here, maybe you missed that. But yeah we would soon see who was doing it just for this reaction. And the one person I sent here didn't get anything to do except sit here in shame and watch the replies come in.

I will be honest with you cutie I can tell you don't like me. Your bitchy attitude towards me in chat has shown that pretty clearly.

So you will excuse me if I take your post with a pinch of salt.
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Well, at least this idea didn't crash and burn after I posted. :rolleyes: One month an no PMs without permission? I don't think so, they are just as frequent now as they were, if not more for me.
Princess Penelope wrote:Well I'm sorry to say it cutie pie
Don't call me that, thank you.
Princess Penelope wrote:Since I called a couple of people out for doing this ... I have had very few problems with people PMing me
Well, as long as everything is ok for you then it doesn't matter. :rolleyes:
Princess Penelope wrote:So clearly it does work
Just because it works for you, doesn't actually mean it works for everyone. One person is hardly a decent sample size. :-P
Princess Penelope wrote:The idea that people will enjoy being humiliated in such a way has already been discussed here, maybe you missed that.
I didn't miss it, I just thought that as a chat moderator, my opinion might actually matter. :yes: That is not to say others opinion's do not, they are just as important, and so is mine. My apologies is speaking out is wrong. :-P
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^sighs dramatically^

This again? Really?

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princesscutie wrote:Well, at least this idea didn't crash and burn after I posted. :rolleyes: One month an no PMs without permission? I don't think so, they are just as frequent now as they were, if not more for me.
The idea hasn't crashed or burned, this isn't a competition darling, it doesn't matter if people want to use this method or not. And I haven't been in chat for weeks, and only actually used this method once. Next time I think it will work, I will use it again, there is no rule against it. As far as I can see this is an anything goes kind of place, and that's what makes it so great.
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princesscutie wrote: Well, as long as everything is ok for you then it doesn't matter. :rolleyes:
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Mhmmm I mean, it's not as if this has made things any worse for anyone. Like I said, I only did it the one time, any other time I simply called the guys out in chat for doing it.

I'm an independent woman, I'm not going to come crawling to your ass every time some douche messages me without permission.

This worked the one time, for me, and it was fun, which is why I am here, to have fun. I'm not breaking any rules, I'm not hurting anyone. And this thread is still open for anyone else who wants to do the same.

Deal with it.
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Dont want to really make a big discussion out of it, but as far as i can see... well... i am wondering why you, Penny, get mad so easily. Yes you can do it and yes it doesnt break any rules, but as far as i can see Cutie just atgve out an opinion... what is also not against the rules and is also her right. So no reason to get personal. :)
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Oda wrote:Dont want to really make a big discussion out of it, but as far as i can see... well... i am wondering why you, Penny, get mad so easily. Yes you can do it and yes it doesnt break any rules, but as far as i can see Cutie just atgve out an opinion... what is also not against the rules and is also her right. So no reason to get personal. :)
LOL Oda, as if you are anyone to lecture someone for getting mad easily.
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Oh please, banq, you dont need to help your opinion with a second account.
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Oda wrote:Oh please, banq, you dont need to help your opinion with a second account.
What are you drivelling on about now? you cretinous little shit.
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No reason to get insulting :D
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