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I am a 25 year old virgin.

I've never been the type to go to parties/clubs and pursue sex with just anyone. I want the person I have sex with to mean something to me, but unfortunately none of my relationships have made it to that level so far.

Today I thought about taking a different approach.. I made a listing on Craigslist advertising myself as a 25 year old whos cock has never entered a woman's vagina. If I were a woman the thought of teaching a adult virgin how to please a woman and introducing his cock to my heavenly pussy would drive me wild. As a guy however, I have little to no interest in teaching a woman what I like.

So I'm wondering is this a fetish of woman?
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Women are attracted to a variety of things, like men are. My wife told me she was attracted to my voice, for her initial approach, but she was really turned on by my thoughtfulness, kindness, attention to detail, made her feel special, made her feel beautiful, made her feel desirable, etc.

I've never had a woman tell me she had a fetish for virgins, they mainly have told me they sometimes wish they had waited instead of having sex just to get it over with,.and that they respected a person that would wait until it was right.

For myself, I was not ready to expose myself, to be vulnerable, to have sex, until I met my wife.

There's times I'm curious about sex with other people, but I don't act on it, I talk to my single friends. They have told me that pussy all basically feels the same, and that it's about the person, their character, their quality, how they treat you, how the treat others, how they treat themselves.

Pussy has felt the same to my fingers,.some differences, tastes, smells, but I've only been inside one with my dick.

Once I had sex, it wasn't such a big fucking issue. It was like, oh? That was it?

But by the time I had sex, I was ready to share myself with another person. I had overcome a lot of insecurity, true confidence is being strong enough to be vulnerable.



There's people out there who will find you attractive, there's also people who will use you.

My recommendation is to realize - to make real - your true value.

Don't worry about girls/women.

Forget them, don't look to them to bring you happiness. Just treat them nice, gain friends who are women. And keep it at that, friends.

Go out and do what you need to do to value yourself. exercise every day, get off the computer, make yourself focus on getting what you want, realizing your dreams.

Make goals and accomplish them!

Then women will come, once you realized your value. They will notice. This is a time to be careful, some people are users, don't let yourself get into a deep relationship right away, if things go well, maybe you get engaged, stay engaged for a long time, take your time. Women are hunters, they will use deception to get what they want.

Now, women aren't all evil,

But just be careful about who you get involved with, guys, girls, friends, romantic relationships. It's just good sense to surround yourself with people who lift you up, people who encourage and support you. People that drag you down will only waste your time and suck you into the bog of nowhere land and depression.

Take good care of yourself, daily hygiene, daily exercise, eat healthier, take up a hobby that you enjoy.

Don't get involved with a deep relationship right away
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Value yourself, and enjoy the company of good people, compassionate, understanding, loving people.

But make sure you don't sacrifice your values!

Find out what your values are. Make a list of qualities you think makes a good person, and then make those qualities yours.

Fake it till you make it. If you want to be respected, then treat others with respect, and don't put up with disrespect.

This comes naturally the more you realize your true value.

You have to accept yourself, as you are, right now, as worthy of love and happiness.

Look in the mirror every day and tell yourself

"I an worthy of love and happiness just the way I am, I accept myself as worthy of love and happiness."
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You have to keep up with these daily mantras, be consistent!

Why?

Because humans learn/are programmed through repetition!

if someone tells you you're worthless, every day, for a year, you will become worthless. You will live to fulfill that.

YOU have to take control of your brain programming!

Realize your true value. give up everything else that gets in your way, give up milovana, give up porn, it won't help you in your relationships. It's an illusion, it will never fulfill you.

Imagining you're eating a sandwich, playing Web teases that guide you into pretending you're eating a sandwich, no matter how strongly you believe,

The fantasy of eating a sandwich will never fill your belly, will never end your hunger.

Just like you'll never get into a relationship while you're fantasizing one through porn.

You can always come back to it, give it a try for a month.

30 day no porn challenge - google that.
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Porn contributes to an inaccurate view of women, especially for guys who haven't been in a relationship.

I'm not saying porn necessarily creates this, because it's our brains, the inaccurate view, the fantasy, the alternate reality, exists in or head, in our brain.

To face reality, to see it clearly, you have to cleanse yourself of the fantasy.

All the props of your fantasy make the fantasy more real, so

Remove the props.

Reality is fucking scary!

Reality hurts!

But the turning away from reality, toward fantasy, will not make your pain end, and it will not remove your fear.

It will only distract you from it for a little while. As you become desensitized to the fantasy, more powerful props are needed.

Again, google 30 day no porn challenge.

But hey, you're free to do whatever you like with your life.
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You can be whoever you want to be.

Read the quotes on this link:

http://mobile.brainyquote.com/quotes/au ... maltz.html

Free yourself.
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Umm... that went off on a rather strange tangent.

Anonymous - 25 yr old male virgins are definitely not a major fetish for most women. However, you don't need most women to be interested in it, just a few will do! So, Craigslist, not a bad idea.

That said, I would kind of agree with the essence (I think) of Edgemycock's messages, that losing your virginity in that way might not be ideal. But, THAT said, I'm not actually in the shoes of a 25 yr old virgin male! So, game on!

Lastly, while Edgemycock might be technically correct that all pussy "basically feels the same", the net experience of having sex with one person is HUGELY different than having sex with another person. The way they move, the way your bodies fit together, if they are aggressive or sensual or fun and giggly (or repressed... booo), if they maintain eye contact, how the kissing connects, how much noise they make, what kind of noises they make, what gets them off...

sigh... I think I just made myself horny recalling all of that...
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So I'm wondering is this a fetish of woman?
I am sure that there is some woman out there that thinks about this.
however,
logically they probably do not act on it!
1. difficulty of tracking down guys who are virgins and of legal age for sex
2. she might be happy in the relationship(s) she has and not be really looking
3. a one time event..does not a lifestyle make.
4. and I am not sure you would Really want a women who only likes virgins, because she would leave you... and look for another... right??
5. okay so you stop being a virgin..then what??

all the other post, correctly focus on your self esteem...
just love yourself, and generally that makes it easier for others to love you!
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Hello brother,

I can relate to you completely.
I am a 24yo virgin, not a partygoer and on top of that have serious trouble letting anyone in my personal space.
It feels as if it's never going to work out with anyone, especially if you're a student in a campus filled with guys and the guy/girl ratio among your friends and acquintances* is 15:1.

I didn't force myself to go out searching for girls since I was happy alone as well.
I have a hobby I'm very passionate about, people I can talk to and a lifestyle I am content with but never seemed to meet interesting girls.

That is, untill a few weeks ago. Today I have a lovely girlfriend.
I can't tell details and stay anonymous so I won't.
What I can tell you is the core of most previous posts.

Be a interesting person on your own and then the right girl for that person will show up.
If you don't any relationship you have won't last.
I know of several relationships that fell apart because one partner did things f.e. working out just to get a relationship and not for himself.

Of course this was about relationships, not about sex and losing your virginity.
As stated before, I'm still a virgin however I did have the same thoughts you had and considered an add like yours.
Wether it is a good idea or not depends on the person you meet -if anyone is interested at all- and personally I didn't like the odds I arbitrarily made up in my mind.
I was confident that either:
a- someone interesting would turn up sooner or later
b- I could always just go looking for a partner in a less desperate way, f.e. speed dating is still not popular but it sometimes happens in a city near my home.
and I was right.


I've also been interrupted several times while writing this reply so I apologise if it isn't as ...coherent as it should be.


* people you know but don't consider good friends, I had no idea how to spell that
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On reading my previous raply again I noticed that I might be insinuating that you are just boring and unattractive to women.
I wish I could say something else but that is always an option.
However I think that in those cases you aren't the person you really want yourself to be.
In those case you can change yourself for you and get more likeable for women in the process as a bonus.
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Fetish was the wrong word, I think fantasy is a more accurate word. None the less, thanks for the responses.
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Post by crazyxxx »

While most of the women probably don't have such a fetish or fantasy, I bet they would still prefer a man with no sexual experience over a man that had hundreds of women in his bed. So, don't worry, you can always find positive sides about your "condition" :-)
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