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Interesting thread all around :-) Gotta agree with the community praise, even if the only problem with the opening post was the "red flag" title.. after "clicking cautiously" the post itself was an honest posting of a delicate issue, so it's kinda hard to rage at that .. :-)

This discussion made me come up with a .. hypothesis? Is the very way we _learn_ actually incompatible with sex? Could this be at least one reason for issues that show up with age? Let me try to explain;

When you're first learning something, lets say writing (pencil, not keyboard)... you start with fumbling about, trying to figure out how to hold the pencil while trying to make a straight line, to meet it with another line at the top, cross it at the right spot.. you may also be trying to get the idea of the letters, to understand the shapes. All in all, stupid amounts of things you need to pay attention to and potentially be surprised about.

Over time, with repetition, the whole process automates, pretty much entirely. Instead of looking for the pointy end of the pencil, you just pick one up. You turn a paper to the exact angle you prefer it in. You think of a word and it pretty much just appears. Most of us here could probably write readable notes without even looking at the paper.

I heard an explanation of habits recently, by the notorious Jordan B Peterson, in one of his lectures (can't remember which, sorry). Roughly that when we repeat a process often enough, it quite literally builds into a small machine in our brain, always ready to "handle" whatever it is used for. Smaller and smaller the better we get at it - making it faster to process and less expensive energywise.. sounded quite reasonable. He also used this to explain why getting rid of bad habits is so hard - you'll have to basically build another machine to _suppress_ the original one AND handle the "input" in the new desirable way. The new one being easier to disrupt by negative states. So, you get emotional once, disrupting the new one, the old one takes over and back to the fridge you go.

Now, to compare this with sex and learning sex; well. It's not obvious that we'd learn only the "mechanics" of it, but it's definately a part of it. Getting "better" with the mechanics would automatically reduce the attention we have to pay to it, potentially reducing stimuli. Maybe already reducing enough to cause issues?

Thinking about the habit forming bit, what is a "smaller machine" in terms of brains? Less connections - less connections to unneeded bits, less memories firing? Less wicked thoughts firing? Less sensations getting registered?

Unless you intentionally try differently, will you learn just "good enough" sex, like you did with learning "good enough" writing. (Don't tell me you're proud of your handwriting... ;-) ) And then get "bored" because, you know, well, "good enough" isn't exactly exiting.

Does this sound completely retarded, or might I be onto something? Or does someone know of a paper or a book around this? (Should I google that myself...? Why does it take this long to get the idea of google ...? Didn't I form that habit a decade ago? ... :-) )
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As others have wisely stated, this is a matter of proper moderation. Perhaps even caution, depending on the individual. I would posit that the degree of caution used should be proportional to the potential risks / negative outcomes with whatever you do in life. The problem with porn is that too many folks under estimate it, or are unaware altogether.

Having said as much, I believe I've found a good rhythm of using porn about once every four days, and longer periods if I get lucky with the wife unit first. Real sex is my top priority. But I also enjoy porn and self pleasure. But, I am ever mindful that the porn lust can easily ramp up and start messing with my relationship in different ways. E.g. I've never had ED, but I have noticed decreased desire if my wife gets interested in some loving and I had cum to porn too recently.

As a general rule I try to only watch porn when my body tells me its time to do something. But I fully acknowledge that this can be a chicken or the egg problem! Thus the moderation / caution employed.
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A quick re-comment -- Here's a discussion board on the topic of (possible) pornography addiction:

http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/

That's it. Read further only if you want. Go there if you are worried in any way about porn addiction.

I find the community there supportive and relatively intelligent and non-judgmental. I don't necessarily consider myself to be a "porn addict" (and I'm personally not sure whether their definition/s are accurate) but I don't mind talking about any such issues in that community, entirely for free and entirely anonymously. That discussion board is an off-shoot of a more (pseudo-)scientific website, yourbrainonporn.com, which you might also check out.

The fellow above who reported that he engaged in a longer-term non-porn period (10 months, I think he said) described some interesting personal changes. One point to remember is, that within all this (pseudo-)science about whether or not our brains should or shouldn't get all that stimulation from porn or not, is the simple concept that sexuality developed evolutionarily NOT for pleasure but instead for PROCREATION. Because among humans (1) male ejaculation is almost entirely required for conception and procreation, and (2) almost 100% of males experience ejaculation only with orgasm, it makes sense, then, that (3) the "best" or "most natural" arrangement for your sexual responses would be something akin to CONSTANTLY PRE-MATURE ejaculation (and orgasm). So, the guy said (paraphrasing) he didn't "become a ladies man" or get "better at sex" just because he quit the porn-fapping; in fact, he reported that he became LESS capable of restraining his ejaculation during non-porn (meaning, with a real human female partner) sex. In other words, he became MORE likely to procreate.

As far as evolution and biology go, I think we need to remember that the "good" development in sexuality may in fact be "bad" for pleasure if it's also good for ejaculation, therefore procreation. Sometimes in these discussions we forget, and say that our sexual activity will be "better" if we do what's more natural; then, we sometimes say, porn is UNnatural, so we'll become more natural by doing less porn. What we forget is, maybe we don't actually WANT to be more natural about sex. More "natural" is, cumming inside a chick and making babies. That's something I don't personally want. In so far as porn's influence on my sex life, then, porn is EXCELLENT precisely and exactly because it is UNnatural. I cannot possibly impregnate a video image on a computer screen, therefore I do not have to raise its baby.

But I also wouldn't want the opposite. I wouldn't want to become SO desensitized to potential real-world experiences by porn experiences that, if a nice chance at a real-world hook-up arrived, I could not take advantage of it. For true porn addicts, evidently, porn threatens to reduce the sensitivity TOO far, to the point that they can't engage in real-world relationships of a sexual nature. As with all things, moderation is recommended. Porn, no porn? Which one? Somewhere in the middle might be the best choice for many of you. Total abstention from porn may be necessary for some of you. Total dependence on porn would be (barely) sensible if (for example) you were to be incarcerated in solitary confinement for 20 years, or (for another example) you had signed up for an 18 month stay at an isolated research station in Antarctica. Most of us are in the middle between such pro- and anti-porn extremes.
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I appreciate the fact that it appears, on face value, a lot of thought and time went into this post. While I did not receive a doctorate in psychology, I would have to say that an individual traveling the world and visiting several prostitutes just might have some issues aside from compilations of pornography distributed on the internet. From the opposing side of this argument, perhaps I am the one missing out. What I will say, all speculative, would be the following:

To try and blame your sexual issues based solely upon "cock hero" after describing all you have been through, seems a bit eccentric. There are so many factors that come into play on this subject that it would be hard to truly pin point what is causing an issue here; another question could be "is there even an issue?". Maybe CH is your thing, would that mean that CH is your true problem? Would it be so bad that a prostitute can't help you? I would think that perhaps instead of dropping hundreds of dollars on a stranger, tugging one out for free at home could be beneficial. Then again, I just paid my taxes so my judgement could be askew.

This may seem trite and it certainly undermines my entire post but, keep in mind you are taking in advice from sources on the internet. This is the same place that you found cock hero. Yes, they have their own site and they appear to be knowledgeable. I tend to stray from the general consensus when I say that the only person who knows what you need is yourself. Could it be porn, sure. Could it be an addiction, yes. Could it be psychological, yes. Could it be physical, yes. It could be anything. Every person is different.

For myself CH has greatly enhanced sex with women. I find that I now last longer and when that time comes it is just as great as when I reach that good ole countdown timer. For me porn is waning on the impact it has on me becoming excited, just having an actual girl with me is instant hard on time. I am no stranger to sex, I have had quite a few girls. This is not me saying I am the epitome of sexual prowess. Make no mistake, I have had sex with 0's and 10's (0 being a troll and 10 being gorgeous). I would say I generally fall around a 6.

You wrote a statement citing effectively the psychological argument of nature versus nurture. Was your sexual proclivity influenced by cock hero or did these issues exist prior to this discovery? We use this forum to discuss cock hero videos, their creation, their advancement, and so forth; are you truly coming here for help? This topic is being kept alive and you have ceased to keep responding. If this was a troll, you just trolled a very small porn enthusiast site...so good on you. What I believe happened, perhaps what I want to believe, is you had a drunk moment of truth. I say this because I enjoy a good drink or ten.

In the opinion of this internet doctor, you need to find your taste of the day/week/month. Sexual appetites change. Maybe one day you like bdsm, another just the good ole missionary, so on and so forth. I could get into the whole circumcision thing but who has the time? Keep chasing that wet dream.
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Actually I set this topic to give me email notifications each time someone replied, and it stopped working at some point (last email 5 April) :(.

No trolls in this post.

At the risk of sounding too defensive, I didn't and do not feel any shame for my actions. I try not to regret anything that I do as a matter of habit, and try to just own my actions. I was fully sober when writing the OP. I definitely did NOT intend to be preachy or advocate a specific way of life or assume it would affect everyone in the same way, I just simply wanted to share my own personal experiences with a community that has brought me a lot of enjoyment over the years.
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No need to defend your actions at all. You didn't come off as preachy, I was merely speculating while having no direct knowledge of you as an individual. I enjoy this as well and would say keep at it my friend.
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Nothing wrong with people sharing bad experiences. Readers will use such info as they see fit - listen to it or don't.

Personally I have not had any issues like this, but for me there is a completely different issue that got close to put me in a wheel chair: Too much electro stimulation. I used to love that stuff - it is some of the best sexual stimulation you can possibly get, but apparently it can also mess up your nerves pretty badly if you are unlucky or overdo it.

So yeah, as with everything, due caution is probably best. Too much tend to be unhealthy of pretty much everything.
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zoltan wrote: Sat Apr 01, 2017 3:48 pm Sidebar: Does anyone else love that a new user can come in here and write a long post warning us against the very thing this board is built around, and we develop it into a mature discussion instead of just shouting him down? Milovana is an amazing community.
Actually a very good point.
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I would not give to much thought to the whole "porn addiction" and "difficulty to cum during sex due to masturbation" stuff. There are many claims out their and most have no or a crapy scientific backing. if you masturbated a lot at a young age you did what many did and if you can't cum your first time having sex it is probably due to stress, expectiations or whatever.
I've masturbated a lot and also from an early age and I have no trouble cumming. Also, having a lot of one thing (e.g. hard and fast masturbation to hard core porn) usually makes me more excited about the other (teasing, sex, soft stimulation).
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Porn is just a way for me to find idea's that arouse me, the arousal gets me going, not the physical stimulation.
Over stimulating with lube can also numb the skin, try going without lube for a week if you always use it.

Being more sensitive during sex and having my mind filled up with all the idea's I found sexy is what gets me over the edge (e.g. Some ideas going back as far as accidentally touching feet with my crush in highschool. both of us noticing, and neither of us moving away. This idea escalates when it's accidentally touching a hand to another hand or genitals. the casual silence drives me wild).

To me it seems your problem is more one of insecurity than one of erectile dysfunction. You mentioned orgasms improved and became easier once you committed to a steady relationship. Trust and love grows and perhaps you let go easier, trusting that she will not end the session if you're not hard.

You could be very clinical about it, write down all ideas or experiences that turn you on, then think of a moment in session with your partner to think about that sexy idea, Then whenever something happens, you trigger the sexy idea.

Fun fact;(?) the brain tells the genitals when to cum, the genitals don't even need to be touched. Just like a wet dream.

You could also try a prostate stimulator and do pelvic floor exersizes, these will improve your orgasms.
You could also have your girl massage your balls, a certain pressure will improve the quality of your sperm.
You could try a male vibrator, just to try a diffrent sensation, male vibrators (like toy joy #no-ad) are difficult to cum to, and this might be good training.
You could also try to forget about cumming at all. Just tell her you can't cum and don't have to. You just want to have fun for a while and feel pleasure together. The need to finish can also ruin the story in your head.

When you do have sex, don't tense up to hold your erection, this could make you lose your arousal. If you relax completely and fully, you can go soft. The tingles to your brain and feeling a soft sexy stimulation or an intoxicating smell. when you naturally become hard and start to throb (really wait and stay relaxed until throbs happen naturally). Notice how much tension you need to trigger the throb, and notice how much you need to hold one for a long time. When having sex I would recommend only using the trigger amount, in order to prevent tensing up.

Penetrate slowly, throb more while going inside her and hold still until you feel you want to move a little just out of primal urge to squeeze your bottom and push in. It gives her time to relax and adjust to you. Then start slowly and feel the sensations, opt to make the slow sensation even better, maybe you want to pull out further before going back in and go from there. Try not to cum.. but when you think you might or have a high heart rate or shortness of breath, stop, stay inside bring your heart rate down, catch your breath (kiss her, talk to her) then continue. See how long you can go without cumming after each time.
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Hello, everyone.

I'm having some concerns about porn, orgasms, and sex drive. That's why I thought it could be a good idea to bump this thread. If you're relatively new to Milovana and have not read the entire thread, I encourage you to do it: it is an interesting read, with all sorts of arguments both supporting and refusing the idea that porn is slowly desensitising us from arousing images.

But I'm not posting here just to bump the thread and raise more concerns about porn, but to share some concerns I'm having about my own sexuality and the use I've been doing of porn in general, and Cock Hero in particular.

After almost 5 years using mainly Cock Hero videos to get off, and from time to time, other regular porn clips on streaming websites, I've noticed that less and less things get me aroused. Contrary to what you may think, hardcore and extreme porn is disgusting to me, and I just enjoy no-naked or sensual porn, especially from Playboy, Nubiles, and such. What we call "softcore". My taste has brought to me to this light type of stimulation. But always with top girls, which may become a problem once I start dating again (I'm unemployed and I don't feel worthy of dating until I have all my shit together again). It may be a problem because I'm an average guy, and I'm not going to date super models lol. Even regular girls have super high standards... which may also be related with the porn girls consume? I don't know.

I'm having a mild depression for a long time, and I am going back to antidepressants, which will make the time I take to cum even worse. I usually take long to cum because I'm less and less aroused and my sex drive is lower and lower each year. And even with a low sex drive, I use porn to have a little relief.

I'm not sure if porn has played a big role in my depression, ADHD, and my low sex drive. But I think the best thing to do is to leave porn for at least a couple of months. I know that, at 30+ years old, now the SSRI will make me even harder to cum. So maybe the best I can do is forget about visual stimulation. I don't know if I will be able to refrain myself from that, but at this point I truly think that my ability to get aroused by visuals is a bit burned out. I'm honestly not sure what to do.

Sure, some doctors have said to me that my low sex drive is connected to my depression, although right now my depression is not that deep. I've been worse in the past. Also, they say my lack of focus and memory is also related with depression, something I tend to associate to ADHD, but in my country that's not a well known disorder. And on top of that, porn as one of my few relieves and joys, could be playing a role in all of it.

By the way I've never taken drugs aside form the ones my doctors gave me during my life.

I think Porn-Induced Erection Disfunction is a thing. I'm not there yet (fortunately), but if I keep using porn on a regular basis I will get to that point eventually. And by regular basis, I mean 2 or 3 times per week, that's my masturbation habit as of lately. It is getting. close to one-two times per week, and that's just anther indicator of how low my sex drive has gone.

If my treatment brings me back my sex-drive, I'll let you know.
Meanwhile, as the title of this thread says, use porn with caution.

TL;DR: I'm afraid porn and CH have had a big role in my desensitisation towards sexual images. Hopefully it was all because of my depression, stress, anxiety and family problems.
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Interesting. I've been having thoughts about this as well. I definitely have issues when it comes to watching these videos. It looks like an addictive pattern. I'd say a large portion of the porn I've watched has been in this format.

I've been depressed for about five of the seven years it's been since I discovered cock hero videos. The primary reason I haven't elected to use SSRIs is the lack of orgasm. Ironically, it's getting to the point where I have difficulty getting aroused by just looking at porn. I can get aroused by putting myself in the right mindset, or by using the porn to create a fantasy in my head. That fantasy is enough to pique my sexual interest.

I think when I first discovered cock hero, I found everything about it stimulating: the music, the girls, but most of all the fact that someone else was in control and I didn't know what was about to happen. Now I've seen at least a thousand different naked women on the internet. Sure, I appreciate the sexuality of the images but that experience is no longer stimulating on its own.

Something that has also kind of ruined cock hero for me is creating it. Although I was consciously aware of the creator behind the scenes before, now I am constantly distracted when I watch a new video. I see it as an amalgamation of cuts and scenes and music and transitions and on and on etc.

Another note: 95% of the time I get stoned before watching these videos. It used to enhance them greatly and make my orgasms feel amazing. Now it's just mediocre. I feel like I'm just making myself nut for a small amount of dopamine so I can continue my day. Sometimes I masturbate like this 3 times a day and it isn't for fun, it's just that I'm caught in a behavioral loop.

Closing thoughts: I think a lot of the issues that men face today when it comes to sexuality is rooted not only in easily available porn, but easily available calories, non-active lifestyles, etc. There is no easy way out. I'd love to find someone to share long lasting emotional and sexual relationship with. I have so many issues to sort out before I feel like that's possible. (Today I cried over a woman I didn't even have sex with a year ago). In the meantime I have seven different free* websites I can go on to get a surrogate for the chemicals I'm missing in my life.
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Interesting thread, must have missed it the first time around. I know 3 years late but OP's original post I tend to want to agree with the last few posters.

One thing I've learned from personal experience is that our mental state drastically affects arousal. I've spent some time in the last few years playing around with hypnosis and HFO's. I've had 4 legit ones over a few years of trying on and off and I've learned a whole new set of things about myself and arousal levels that only further reinforces my belief in what state to be in to orgasm.

I've had phases where I felt anxiety. Early on my first encounter with my first GF went from me at around 17 having never even touched a girl ever to laying on top of my GF making out while she shoved her hands right down my pants. My interpretation was that I was broken in some way because I was soft. It then haunted our relationship for a month or two because I kept being worried about being hard and therefore couldn't get hard while she worked on me, which further reinforced that something was wrong.

We worked through that but still over the years when I feel pressure or worry, I struggle with being hard at all.

So fast forward to my relationship with my wife, who also has battled with depression a lot. She has gone through her own thing in terms of performance and feeling broken, struggling with her own body to get aroused properly and get lost in feeling turned on, to quiet inner voices, doubts, and insecurities.

I've helped her work through a lot of her stuff, and along the way, this was one of the pressures. If I wasn't hard enough for her, she'd interpret this as something being wrong with her, she'd get in her head that she's ugly or gross or something, and I could see the change happen in her and watch her brain sort of melt out of the situation and that was it, no sex that night. We had some bad phases where having a long dry spell I directed my anger in at my dick for not working right, it was a lot of pressure.

While she learned to work through this (and she has) I learned how to keep my dick hard through this. The answer was really that my dick is indirectly controlled. You don't will it hard, it isn't stroked hard (though that helps a lot) the brain decides to pump more blood into the sucker when you are thinking of sex. In the case of my situation I focused on what was turning me on, didn't focus on her struggle, didn't think that it's going to end, thought of nothing but being in a zen state of arousal, thinking of things or looking at things that turn me on.

That translates to the HFO, they happened when I was in a state overwhelming arousal, and I can feel my body rejecting that state, it's like rolling a boulder up a hill, it keeps wanting to fall back down, but you just keep pushing at it, willing away any kind of meta thoughts about what is happening and stay zoned into the arousal.

So circling back to the OP, he's got a situation somewhat similar to start out, a steady GF that rejects him due to not being hard, a totally callous, insensitive and ignorant thing to say to a sexual partner. Now he's in his head that his body is broken. He then finds himself not with caring partners, but a string of random prostitutes who, while attractive, are payed by the hour to be there and are on the clock, they don't know him, don't care about him, and are only going to mechanically pump away at him like he's a machine, not treat him as a lover.

While that is great for a lot of people, some people need to feel loved. I know I am one of them myself. I have to feel like they love me and trust me and want to be there with me, or it just isn't going to work. I find intimacy makes me feel extremely vulnerable so I'm just on guard most of the time. The OP finally found a partner that worked with him as a caring individual and it took him several months with her to undo the damage he had done to himself with the way he treated his sexuality over the years.

On some other comments, depression cuts my libido as well. During bouts of it, esp on my wife, and myself, I can't even jerk off. CH movies become comedy reels for me as I can just pump away and never come close to an edge for an hour. Contrast to this to I got myself so excited with one play through of blue magic that during the phase where you have permission to cum with 1 stroke ever 4 seconds I totally drove myself over the edge and came.

Such wildly different results, all due to how I was feeling at that time about my life or situation.

The only advice I can try to give is to recognize that lack of desire to jerk off to porn or pursue essentially meaningless entertainment is that it's a call to action from your brain to fix something majorly important in your life, or to reassess how you feel about it. It would be like if I lost my job I'd be so fucked there is no way I could jerk off for 45 min to a porn video when I need to be sending resumes out and focusing on rebuilding skills to nail interviews.

For people with serious depression I'd make sure to get professional help as no forum warrior here like myself or anybody is going to give you good professional advice. Having a few friends talk to me about how they have used antidepressants is that they were in such a fog that they had no motivation to correct any wrongs, by taking the medication it essentially let their heads be clear enough to start being receptive to treatment and to start getting better and has changed them for the positive.

This got longer than intended, it's a topic I've though a lot about. Milovana was my gateway into trying different things and learning a lot about myself, so I want to help anybody that comes by to maybe do the same.

Abstaining a few days from jerking off tends to just kill my libido. It sort of spikes then goes into hiding. If I edge myself a bit during that time however it can get me a lot more aggressive and horny, I start looking around at everything female around me a lot harder, and it's lead to more intense sex with my wife. However she is very quick on/off, and once she's flipped on it's pretty ferocious, and I'm more like a slow build, so if I get myself worked up ahead of time I match her pacing, so in that sense porn and CH has been a great tool to enhance my time with my wife. Like anything it is how you use it, because I do read all the time about husbands ignoring their wives for porn as well.

Final take away for people that are built like myself, I've found that being with my wife just feeds me something porn will never hold a candle to. That missing thing is love, trust, companionship and just a wonderful sense of feeling good. I may cum harder after a perfectly edited 1 hour masterpiece of a cock hero and be on edge longer, but that orgasm is just good feeling. It doesn't unsettle depression or leave me with lingering satisfaction the same way even just a simple quickie hand job from my wife might. The two things are forever separated for me, one falls into the bucket of 'porn' , the other is a relationship, and the two just aren't the same thing, although it's very easy to mix them up!
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A great topic and a lot of angles to be aware of.

I've discovered CH videos about half a year ago or so and been a fan since. In comparison to usual porn on streaming services, CH gave me a challenge and an opportunity to have sex with myself longer. With usual porn, I usually did not have the stamina to last at least 20 mins and came after about 5-15 min, depending on the video. CH has become a much more lasting experience to get me my dopamine boost. I enjoy the process and try different techniques to hold on for longer and finish at the end as instructed. As one person before me mentioned, the part of the thrill was that now someone controlled the time when I cum as I myself was unable to jerk off for long. I say "unable" because I like jerking off (well, obviously because it feels good) but the sense that the ultimate reward is near just pushed me over the edge and I always fell for it.

Prolonging the fun was a major motive for me to engage in CH porn but it wasn't just for the sheer length of fapping session. Relating to other people in the thread here, a deeper reason is my psychological problems with girls. As I said earlier, I usually cum for regular porn videos rather quickly, which always got me wondering whether I can hold on longer with a real girl (I'm 26 and a virgin). Perhaps it was the fear of failure that set me out for a stamina-building exercise in the form of CH videos. Spoiler: I still finish for 10-20 mins (depending on the type of CH) if I haven't masturbated that day. If I haven't masturbated for several days, I can just finish in 2 mins regardless of whether it is a softcore or hardcore content. Therefore, I have developed an understanding that in case of a real sex encounter I would have to jerk off quickly before or at least the same day to get me lasting during sex.

Having read the posts here I have looked at this from another angle. Since many of you noticed that becoming a part of CH-community is in one way or another connected to psychological issues, I now realise that I am no different. It might be that my finishing early after a few days of not masturbating is just my brain craving for a quick hit of dopamine. Plus, the whole thing with me being a virgin at 26 is also pretty depressing, so my fear of failure got me addicted to this "CH training" which is also a pleasurable process.

Now for the addiction part, I masturbate daily. Sometimes (now more often) I deny myself the first orgasm to keep going, which may occasionally lead to a 4-5 denial chain and a 2-3 hour-long masturbation session. This topic has led me to believe that I indeed have an addition as OP and others speak about. Although I am still strongly concerned about what happens to me sexually and personally if I chose the abstinence path, I realize that for me it could be beneficial. As OP and others stated, they had problems with arousal/finishing due to the absence of juicy visual and audio stimuli IRL. For me, the outcome in real sex might be just the same, because I just can't finish by using imagination only. I even tried sexting with a girl. I got aroused quickly, leaking like crazy but despite my best effort, I coudn't finish without visual support (I eventually found a vid to cum for).

Therefore, as much as I hate to let go of this wonderful form of mental relaxation and sexual pleasure, I tend to agree with OP that this addiction could lead me further astray from ever getting into a relationship. While I do not experience many communication problems when being around girls (I'm good-looking, easy-going and can hold a conversation about almost anything), I haven't still managed to get to bed with either of them, which is a problem to discuss in another forum I guess. So I hope my view and experience could help someone here to sort out their issues. Thank you all for sharing yours.
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Re: A Warning about Cock Heros

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Not feeling 100% well is certainly an important factor. Honest communication in the couple is a must for sure. For me, I don't experience this Cock Hero desensitization phenomenon. If the sexual material (video and/or audio) is to my taste and I'm neither ill nor tired, arousal will come, then cum naturally. I'd compare this to a fine dish. :-)

Too much of it is a thing though, irritation, inflammation, soreness, not enough time in a day, just like food, so it's a constant questioning of how much is too much.

Food for thoughts! :lol:
Cock Hero Database (on the ice atm) - https://www.ch-db.club/ - :gathering:
[APP] Cock Hero Slideshow Player - Thinking about a script feature for [APP] Cock Hero Video Player :icecream:
If your video is too fat, there's a solution!
Spoiler: show
The generated output of your video editor may be bloated, too big for not any significant benefit. One thing you can do is use HANDBRAKE with the H.264 (x264), RF18 Constant Quality and Web Optimized / Fast Start options, all other options by default. You'd be surprised how smaller the video becomes, without any impact to the quality.
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LINKS:

HandBrake, The open source video transcoder
https://handbrake.fr/

For future reference, here's the original Hanbrake post by Eriol:
viewtopic.php?f=25&t=12815&hilit=Handbrake#p164242
Interesting for further details about the process.
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So many projects to kill, so little time. :-)
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