BDSM and consent

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BDSM and consent

Post by Marno » Sun May 13, 2018 2:47 pm

I thought that I'd share a pleasant article from the BBC, BDSM and consent: How to stop rough sex crossing the line into abuse.

A couple of parts stood out for me.
  • "… there's a misconception that the dominant partner … is the one with control. A good dom is giving pleasure to the submissive, and that's what gives the dom pleasure."
  • "safe, sane and consensual" (from the embedded video)
These are aspects that BDSM porn glosses over, or worse, ignores, or even worse, implies doesn't happen.

The article also talks about communication, understanding and respect.

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Re: BDSM and consent

Post by janmb » Sun May 13, 2018 9:03 pm

The basic misconception, but fortunately one that exists mainly among the vanilla population, is that the dom(me) is the strong part and the sub is weak. The truth is the exact opposite. Which is also a large part of what makes subbing so fun and rewarding: You push your own boundaries and choose to place trust into someone else. In many ways, while this is clearly not often a factor in porn, in personal life, what is a stronger, better expression of love than choosing to submit to someone, placing absolute trust in them?
Yes, I most certainly CAN do it again!

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