Limp Dick (serious)

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Gormur
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Re: Limp Dick (serious)

Post by Gormur »

Asked to post it here for an anonymous user.
Sorry to send you a PM about that. I clearly don't want to post that on the forum under my name. Feel free to post that on your thread though, as long as you don't mention me. Actually I would even like if you could post that, to share experiences.

Like you, I have been around Milo for quite sometime though I am a bit younger than you are. I am not one of the very active members, just a guy around from time to time when I have / had, a nice jerk off session.

About three years ago I started to have serious ED. At the beginning I was in a long relationship and going through relationship problems, I had a lot of work induced stress. I blame those things, but no matter what happened it didn't get significantly better, ups and down.

I started to really freak out after my break up, when the bad excuse of my now-ex was gone. I was with a girl, that had all the "beautiful", "exciting" and "new" features you could hope for in a random sexual encounter... not able to get it hard.

I went to see a doc, an urologist, and I seriously recommend you do the same. The guy suggested some pills to regain trust before anything. I did not take them, I didn't want to build an addiction over an addiction. The guy did not really confirm or excluded porn and masturbation as a potential source, so far no science has been backing it up not removing the doubt.


At that stage, I had diagnosed myself with porn addiction, like many should to my personal opinion :

* Never jerking off without a screen
* Never stopping for more than a day, always because of being busy, not because I wouldn't.

I would say that another thing is that I had this zapping habit, never able to stay more than five seconds on the same porn video or tease. I was always multitasking my porn consumption. And I think, that gave my brain an extra thing fucking it up. I really recommend you to watch this. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSF82AwSDiU

The is a reddit called nofap ... Check this out too! You are not alone, it's not much but it's something!



So now about the better news. I have read people people advising people getting off jerking off for three or four days... I doesn't do a damn thing (at it least for me). Months, if not years, it took a lot of time. And at the beginning it's just depressing, you just your free endorphines through jerk off, you will miss them. It will go very progressively, because it's hard to stay away. I was able to have some good days with satisfying erection after three months of decent effort (maybe three relapses).

Still today when I relapse I know that there is a wall after three days where I usually have hard times not going back to it.

I noticed that I usually go back to it on the bad days, hence my presence on Milovana today. "Hello darkness my old friend".



This is just my experience and personal case. If you wish a few advices to go off porn and jerk off, here they are:

* Sport, helps to find motivation and way to put energy out.
* Tracking of your efforts. For example, I add events in my Google Calendar, marking weekly milestones. It's a very good thing to keep the record.
* Get people you care about on board... Your wife / girlfriend will definitely get hurt and doubt herself about that, discussing the problem will help you to get support and her to not get down.
* Force yourself to not spend time in situation in which you usually jerk off.
* Maybe get a shrink to discuss about it.
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