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Hello guys,

does any one have a chastity relationship here before?

A good friend of mine found a one way lock in my room and talked to an other friend of her about it, where she found the same thing. :blush: She confessed her littlle secret and want to meet me. Now we are a couple. It is such a cute story and I never mind that it will become true, but we are somehow both new to this as a couple thing.

She locked me 2 hours a go and I last cummed aournd 10 hours ago.

Our further gooal is to go in the evening at a restaurant and then hopefully it will work to stay caged over night. I only could sleep 1 or 2 times in my past with cage on. Any ideas how to make it easier?

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Practice makes perfect is the usual response. I had my sub "acclimate" to wearing the belt slowly. Understandably, the skin in that area is usually very sensitive. So, plan on getting some practice time when you have free time. Most easily on the weekend. (Trimming the hair in the area helps. To make sure it won't snag. You don't have to shave it clean, just make sure there's nothing long nearby to get pulled out. The real trick is to try and not do anything sexually stimulating. Just have 2 normal days. Do whatever you normally would. (Try not to spend much time away from your home, mind you.) Move around, stand, sit, read play games, ect... The trick is, when you are getting used to something, you need to allow yourself to take breaks. If you try to force it, you will start to hate it. If you start to feel uncomfortable, take it off for a few minutes, gently clean the area, apply some lotion for chafed skin (Coco butter works well. Essentially, the cage will be constantly rubbing the area it's attached to and you can very easily find yourself rubbed raw.) and put the cage back on when you feel ready. The skin needs time and care to adjust.

Now, you don't need to be exact about this, but try and keep track of how long you have it on, and how long you keep it off. Over time take shorter breaks and wear it for longer periods. The weekend is the perfect way to "jump start" your training. (Don't expect 24/7 wear, or even sleeping with it on right away.) Assuming you have an average work-weekend cycle, Start your training on a Saturday morning, take it off to sleep, and go to work without it on Monday morning, put it on when you get home that evening and TRY to wear it until you go to bed that night. Continue this until Friday night.

Now, it's all a matter of personal experience so after your first week it's up to you as to when you try to sleep with it on. When you do, I recommend trying everything you can think of to fall asleep. Masturbate, have a big meal, have some alcohol/chamomile tea/sleeping pills, watch something boring. Anything and everything you can think of. (for the sake of covering my own ass, I'mma say you should NOT mix alcohol with sleeping pills. Hence the "/'s")

If it doesn't happen the first night, consider waiting a day or two before trying again. Repeated failure/frustration can hurt your future chances. Also, I can almost guarantee you won't make it the whole night without waking up. If and when you wake up, have the key nearby, take off the belt and go back to bed. Once you can make it to sleep with the belt on, don't go to bed without it on unless you have like a REALLY bad day and you straight-up NEED a good nights sleep.

Once you can get through the night with it on, you should be ready to wear it all the time. Test yourself in ways that have easy outs. Go for a walk, drive to the store to get like 2-3 items, that sort of thing. By now, you should be ready for 24/7 wear if you or your keyholder so desire.

Damn, that took WAY longer to hash-out than I expected. Now I get what J.R.R. Tolkien mean when he said "The story grew in the telling. Damn. Props to you if you made it this long.

Let me know how it goes.

-Tury

P.S. My sub was flirting with someone pretty hard in public and they got a bit handsy. The girl he was crushing on grabbed his junk, felt his cage, and now he can't go back to that bar. So keep a key handy if your are going to go out and there is a chance for anything more than talk.
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Hello Tury maybe you misunderstood me sometimes, because not everything makes sense as a answer to my posting.

But how ever. It doesn't work yester day. After the restaurant I got a handjob and came. :\'-(

I hope next time got better.

Any tips on how to relock me easily after a short handjob or blowjob? I just don't get limp and trying to make me limp end in orgasm.
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We want to try if a week without porn will make a better performance.
I will be back in a week.
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It worked, I can wear it 2 days now. But I was not teased and it has a problem for us. We don't like it.
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FlashyLight wrote: Sun Mar 05, 2017 11:43 am Any tips on how to relock me easily after a short handjob or blowjob? I just don't get limp and trying to make me limp end in orgasm.
Well at first you should learn how to get your cage on really quick when you are soft. Fiddling around for too long will make everything more difficult.

In my opinion, the easiest way to get limp quickly is to get your mind busy with something non-sexual. I use my Nintendo 3DS for this, which has some puzzle games installed (you could use a smartphone for this as well). So i usually sit there hot and bothered, start a game and it takes max. 5 minutes till i am completely soft. Now you just have to be quick enough to get everything locked up. But this is just a matter of practise.

Also a popular method is to use ice to cool everything down. It doesn´t work for me though, i just get harder and numb :lol: . But maybe this works for you.
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Sexless Dummy wrote: Sun Mar 19, 2017 10:01 am

Also a popular method is to use ice to cool everything down. It doesn´t work for me though, i just get harder and numb :lol: . But maybe this works for you.
That's interesting to know that ice makes you harder Sexless Dummy... ;-)

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Little Miss Jay wrote: Sun Mar 19, 2017 12:25 pm
Sexless Dummy wrote: Sun Mar 19, 2017 10:01 am

Also a popular method is to use ice to cool everything down. It doesn´t work for me though, i just get harder and numb :lol: . But maybe this works for you.
That's interesting to know that ice makes you harder Sexless Dummy... ;-)

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SOund like a good idea, sexless_dummy.

It is similar by me. Ice didn't work, but not because I got hard. It is like my dick is less stretchabel by the coldness.

I will try your ideas and tell you what happend.

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